"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Crab Mentality

Jager

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Here’s some food for thought, and it’s something you might be familiar with:

The crabs in a bucket. Crabs in a bucket will pull each other down into it. There’s videos about it you can look up. When a crab gets brave and tries to get out of the bucket, the other crabs will pull him back into it. When that crab can taste his freedom, he gets pulled back in.

I’ve noticed this in my interactions with other people, too. Higher thought, clarity, logic are not necessarily a given in people in our modern society. People are not necessarily a known quantity in terms of their intelligence or IQ.

When a man presents a revolutionary idea, method, solution, etc., something that could potentially free those around him from some hardship or dilemma, I notice it is immediately attacked. I’ve noticed this out in the world.

The only thing that matters is your observations, how you see the world. What matters is your view on the world. What’s true for you is true for you. But, there’s another angle on this. It is possible that the idea you have of the world isn’t your own. You could’ve gotten it from someone else, and adopted it as your own. And other people who are in a similar position will continue this cycle of spreading the false beliefs, like a plague growing across the countryside. When you reach for freedom, for the truth, the individuals around you who know their beliefs are not their own, who didn’t have the courage to decide for themselves, will try to drag you back into the matrix. Just like crabs in a bucket.

-Mufasa
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

mrgoodstuff

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Here’s some food for thought, and it’s something you might be familiar with:

The crabs in a bucket. Crabs in a bucket will pull each other down into it. There’s videos about it you can look up. When a crab gets brave and tries to get out of the bucket, the other crabs will pull him back into it. When that crab can taste his freedom, he gets pulled back in.

I’ve noticed this in my interactions with other people, too. Higher thought, clarity, logic are not necessarily a given in people in our modern society. People are not necessarily a known quantity in terms of their intelligence or IQ.

When a man presents a revolutionary idea, method, solution, etc., something that could potentially free those around him from some hardship or dilemma, I notice it is immediately attacked. I’ve noticed this out in the world.

The only thing that matters is your observations, how you see the world. What matters is your view on the world. What’s true for you is true for you. But, there’s another angle on this. It is possible that the idea you have of the world isn’t your own. You could’ve gotten it from someone else, and adopted it as your own. And other people who are in a similar position will continue this cycle of spreading the false beliefs, like a plague growing across the countryside. When you reach for freedom, for the truth, the individuals around you who know their beliefs are not their own, who didn’t have the courage to decide for themselves, will try to drag you back into the matrix. Just like crabs in a bucket.

-Mufasa
Thats why you dont explain or try to help. Do it for yourself. Some will follow later on.
 

Spaz

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Here’s some food for thought, and it’s something you might be familiar with:

The crabs in a bucket. Crabs in a bucket will pull each other down into it. There’s videos about it you can look up. When a crab gets brave and tries to get out of the bucket, the other crabs will pull him back into it. When that crab can taste his freedom, he gets pulled back in.

I’ve noticed this in my interactions with other people, too. Higher thought, clarity, logic are not necessarily a given in people in our modern society. People are not necessarily a known quantity in terms of their intelligence or IQ.

When a man presents a revolutionary idea, method, solution, etc., something that could potentially free those around him from some hardship or dilemma, I notice it is immediately attacked. I’ve noticed this out in the world.

The only thing that matters is your observations, how you see the world. What matters is your view on the world. What’s true for you is true for you. But, there’s another angle on this. It is possible that the idea you have of the world isn’t your own. You could’ve gotten it from someone else, and adopted it as your own. And other people who are in a similar position will continue this cycle of spreading the false beliefs, like a plague growing across the countryside. When you reach for freedom, for the truth, the individuals around you who know their beliefs are not their own, who didn’t have the courage to decide for themselves, will try to drag you back into the matrix. Just like crabs in a bucket.

-Mufasa
You're only 28 and yet able to think in abstracts and put it to paper, very commendable.

That's a good post Jager.

You'll go far in life if ur mindset is always questioning everything and anything.
 

Epic Days

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This is actually a pretty good post. Making us proud.
 
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