"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The coffee date

Effington

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So Friday was my last day of work at my job, and as I was packing up my things, the girl I'm kind of interested in comes over and gives me her phone/email, says to keep in touch. We've exchanged a couple emails and decided to meet this weekend for coffee, which is cool.

Do you guys have any suggestions on late-afternoon stuff to do afterwards? I want to have a vague idea of stuff to do if we decided to hang out for more than a cup of coffee.

Any suggestions are appreciated!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Effington

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I think this girl has a little more class than that. Not sure she's a huge drinker, but definitely not the type to take to a bar at 4pm.

I told her we should meet at 4pm. I figure if things go well we can do dinner somewhere. I think this one is convinced that I'm a classy guy, cause I was usually pretty professional at work. What a sucker!

Hopefully she's a drinker, otherwise it will be an interesting day.
 

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Effington said:
I think this girl has a little more class than that. Not sure she's a huge drinker, but definitely not the type to take to a bar at 4pm.

I told her we should meet at 4pm. I figure if things go well we can do dinner somewhere. I think this one is convinced that I'm a classy guy, cause I was usually pretty professional at work. What a sucker!

Hopefully she's a drinker, otherwise it will be an interesting day.

should be interesting regardless ;)


no reason to get a girl hammered to get to where you wanna be...
 

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Getting something to eat is always good. Keep it casual and not too expensive.

If things are going very well, no matter how "classy" she is, there is a good chance she will be open, even suggest, going to a bar for some drinks. She just needs to relieve some anxiety.

If you have access to a beach, you can go there in the evening.

Park.
 

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I live spitting distance from Lake Michigan, but we just had record cold temperatures and there's a half a foot of snow outside. This isn't California!

I hope you're right. I guess we'll see what happens. I always flirted with her at work (she's HOT!), but I didn't work there very long, so don't know her very well. I remember one day she gave me a double take when she saw me decked out in a nice suit (I used to work for a high class suit manufacturer, so have some nice custom made garments, and I was going straight to a wedding that day), which was amusing. But I digress.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not sure if this is good or bad, she said she had a thing at 5, so didn't want to meet for such a short period of time; she lives on the other side of town. Work is closer to my place so she said we'll hang out after work sometime next week.
 
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