"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The coffee date

Effington

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So Friday was my last day of work at my job, and as I was packing up my things, the girl I'm kind of interested in comes over and gives me her phone/email, says to keep in touch. We've exchanged a couple emails and decided to meet this weekend for coffee, which is cool.

Do you guys have any suggestions on late-afternoon stuff to do afterwards? I want to have a vague idea of stuff to do if we decided to hang out for more than a cup of coffee.

Any suggestions are appreciated!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Effington

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I think this girl has a little more class than that. Not sure she's a huge drinker, but definitely not the type to take to a bar at 4pm.

I told her we should meet at 4pm. I figure if things go well we can do dinner somewhere. I think this one is convinced that I'm a classy guy, cause I was usually pretty professional at work. What a sucker!

Hopefully she's a drinker, otherwise it will be an interesting day.
 

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Effington said:
I think this girl has a little more class than that. Not sure she's a huge drinker, but definitely not the type to take to a bar at 4pm.

I told her we should meet at 4pm. I figure if things go well we can do dinner somewhere. I think this one is convinced that I'm a classy guy, cause I was usually pretty professional at work. What a sucker!

Hopefully she's a drinker, otherwise it will be an interesting day.

should be interesting regardless ;)


no reason to get a girl hammered to get to where you wanna be...
 

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Getting something to eat is always good. Keep it casual and not too expensive.

If things are going very well, no matter how "classy" she is, there is a good chance she will be open, even suggest, going to a bar for some drinks. She just needs to relieve some anxiety.

If you have access to a beach, you can go there in the evening.

Park.
 

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I live spitting distance from Lake Michigan, but we just had record cold temperatures and there's a half a foot of snow outside. This isn't California!

I hope you're right. I guess we'll see what happens. I always flirted with her at work (she's HOT!), but I didn't work there very long, so don't know her very well. I remember one day she gave me a double take when she saw me decked out in a nice suit (I used to work for a high class suit manufacturer, so have some nice custom made garments, and I was going straight to a wedding that day), which was amusing. But I digress.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Effington

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Not sure if this is good or bad, she said she had a thing at 5, so didn't want to meet for such a short period of time; she lives on the other side of town. Work is closer to my place so she said we'll hang out after work sometime next week.
 
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