This is a common excuse, particularly among PUA's, who aren't having the type of success they expected or were promised. Let's set aside the fact that few if any men are able to date multiple attractive women at the same time (the reasons are too obvious to require explanation).
The real question is, does your city help or hinder your dating chances? In all honesty, if you are willing to put in requisite time and effort and are reasonably realistic about your SMV, the answer if very often "no."
Among friends living in big cities, some of them into pickup, others not, their results tracked very closely to their conventional ranking in looks and social status. Average looking guys tended to date and marry average looking girls. Some of these guys chased hot girls with gusto initially, but with typical market corrections, wound up with girls close to them in looks and social status. Better looking guys, assuming they had relatively good social skills, dated better looking women.
In the smaller towns I've lived in, the odds of an average looking guy dating an attractive women are probably better than in a big city, since the pool of successful and attractive men is far smaller. Women will very often date down, if the man is reasonably successful and stable. The pool on both sides is much more shallow, so you can't afford to be as picky, meaning less physically attractive men can fare better than they would otherwise.
A trend I have noticed in both big and small cities is the increasing percentage of men and women who
-aren't married and date infrequently
-marry later
-marry but don't have children
-don't date at all but have some close friends and still have relatively high quality of life
tldr:
-big cities give the appearance of abundant dating options, but this is negated by far more intense competition
-small cities give the appearance of scarce dating options, but forces people in the dating pool to be less selective as a result
The real question is, does your city help or hinder your dating chances? In all honesty, if you are willing to put in requisite time and effort and are reasonably realistic about your SMV, the answer if very often "no."
Among friends living in big cities, some of them into pickup, others not, their results tracked very closely to their conventional ranking in looks and social status. Average looking guys tended to date and marry average looking girls. Some of these guys chased hot girls with gusto initially, but with typical market corrections, wound up with girls close to them in looks and social status. Better looking guys, assuming they had relatively good social skills, dated better looking women.
In the smaller towns I've lived in, the odds of an average looking guy dating an attractive women are probably better than in a big city, since the pool of successful and attractive men is far smaller. Women will very often date down, if the man is reasonably successful and stable. The pool on both sides is much more shallow, so you can't afford to be as picky, meaning less physically attractive men can fare better than they would otherwise.
A trend I have noticed in both big and small cities is the increasing percentage of men and women who
-aren't married and date infrequently
-marry later
-marry but don't have children
-don't date at all but have some close friends and still have relatively high quality of life
tldr:
-big cities give the appearance of abundant dating options, but this is negated by far more intense competition
-small cities give the appearance of scarce dating options, but forces people in the dating pool to be less selective as a result