"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The cashier chick at the local hardware store...

jeepjeepguy

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I'm needing advice on how to proceed with things with someone whom I only run into while she is working. Brief history:

I'm a regular at a particular hardware store, and have built up a friendly repoire with one particular cashier, who I have become interested in. This has been going on for about 1.5 years. We know each others names, a little bit about each other, and always are both glad to see each other it seems. A few nights ago, she asked how my girlfriend was doing - and I told her that we had broken up a while back. She then proceeded normal conversation and mentioned as I was walking away that she would be working the next night. I, of course, found an excuse to go the hardware store to chat with her and I ended up asking her who watches her daughter while she is working. Her reply was "My Mom - her dad disappeared when she was 4 months old" I didn't know what to say, and it was unusual to offer up that kind of personal information for us. I have not been back to the store in a few days, because for one - I don't know what to do next, and two - I don't want to seem to desperate.. Any Advice? I would like to ask her out casually for a lunch or coffee, but it seems so tacky to do at her work when there are usually other customers or co-workers nearby. HELP
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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1. go back and chat her up for a few minutes.

2. during the convo. say" let's do coffee sometime" as your pulling out your cell phone...then say " put your number in my phone" ...hand her the phone..."and I will give you a call sometime soon"

3. take her to coffee.

4. get her life story.

5. get a 2n'd date

6. do the date

7. take her back to your place and bone the hell outta her...

8. move on to the next cashier.


end of story.
 

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My concern is that this is the same principle of picking someone up at a library - she's not there looking for a date, she's trying to work.
 
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Originally posted by jeepjeepguy
My concern is that this is the same principle of picking someone up at a library - she's not there looking for a date, she's trying to work.
Jesus Christ! I give up. What a waste of my time even responding to your cry for help. Go on put up all the road blocks you want. One day your going to have to go around them and actually do something in the dating scene.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TooColdUlrick

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
1. go back and chat her up for a few minutes.

2. during the convo. say" let's do coffee sometime" as your pulling out your cell phone...then say " put your number in my phone" ...hand her the phone..."and I will give you a call sometime soon"

3. take her to coffee.

4. get her life story.

5. get a 2n'd date

6. do the date

7. take her back to your place and bone the hell outta her...

8. move on to the next cashier.


end of story.
funny, but true.
 

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don't really see the point of going on all those dates and trouble just to get a quick lay....wouldn't it be better to get a friends with benefits....or maybe a casual girlfriend?
 

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we got a mild case of afcism here.

predicting the future:

afc: hu huh hello, wu wu would you like to go on a dat dateee with me cashier chiiick?

cashier chick: sure, let's go watch drama-queen 3 in the movie theater, my boyfriend is too pig-headed working out at the gym and working on his car to be with me!
 

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hahaaha
i like #4 -> get her life story!
 

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Just grab your balls and ask her. Otherwise you will spend the rest of your life thinking "What if....?"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ƒucking ask her out , what do you want , an engraved invitation!
 
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