Hey guys, I'm new on the site, and I'd like to get some opinions on how to approach this woman situation I have going on. I've followed this site for awhile, but don't recall this topic coming up, I hope I'm not wrong.
I was fixed up with a sister of a friend in late march, she was fresh out of a 6 year on/off relationship with a real idiot. He took a pile of money from her, cheated on her and verbally abused her. She is 24 years old, and going for her MBA,and has great goals in her life right now. We've been seeing each other every weekend since then, usually once, but sometimes twice. I normally stay away from the chicks fresh out of a relationship, but this chick has got my guts in a knot. I'm 32, and it's been a while since I've had this feeling. We have great dates, and now she is starting to ask me out once in awhile and plan the day. Which is cool with me, she has good ideas. Now for the question mark: I KNOW this chick is hurt over the ex, so I have been respecting her boundaries, haven't kissed her yet, only a few handholds here and there and that's it. I'm feeling antsy here, and for the first time in a long time, I'm afraid to make that move. Her sister and bro-in-law swear to me that she has absolutely NOT put me in the "just friends" pile of dudes, so at least I have that info to fall back on....and I trust them. I'm currently the only guy she's seeing, I know this for a fact. I'm really digging her, one of the coolest hot chicks I've met since I hit puberty. I'm just a little stumped on how to approach her for a move, I'm never dealt with a really hurt girl this soon out of a relationship, like I said, I stay away from them. But this chick has her head screwed on right, and I'm not sure if she'll tolerate a move out of me, or run into a hole and hide. I'm 90% sure she views me as dating/relationship material, but I'm playing it cool here. Am I screwing up by being patient here? I think she's worth the wait...so I'm sort of walking on eggshells here. Any experience with this type of dating relationship fellas? I'd appreciate any words of wisdom ! I don't need to sleep with this chick now, I can get that elsewhere if I want, but I'd like to get this rolling into something a little more fun and interesting and potentially serious.
I was fixed up with a sister of a friend in late march, she was fresh out of a 6 year on/off relationship with a real idiot. He took a pile of money from her, cheated on her and verbally abused her. She is 24 years old, and going for her MBA,and has great goals in her life right now. We've been seeing each other every weekend since then, usually once, but sometimes twice. I normally stay away from the chicks fresh out of a relationship, but this chick has got my guts in a knot. I'm 32, and it's been a while since I've had this feeling. We have great dates, and now she is starting to ask me out once in awhile and plan the day. Which is cool with me, she has good ideas. Now for the question mark: I KNOW this chick is hurt over the ex, so I have been respecting her boundaries, haven't kissed her yet, only a few handholds here and there and that's it. I'm feeling antsy here, and for the first time in a long time, I'm afraid to make that move. Her sister and bro-in-law swear to me that she has absolutely NOT put me in the "just friends" pile of dudes, so at least I have that info to fall back on....and I trust them. I'm currently the only guy she's seeing, I know this for a fact. I'm really digging her, one of the coolest hot chicks I've met since I hit puberty. I'm just a little stumped on how to approach her for a move, I'm never dealt with a really hurt girl this soon out of a relationship, like I said, I stay away from them. But this chick has her head screwed on right, and I'm not sure if she'll tolerate a move out of me, or run into a hole and hide. I'm 90% sure she views me as dating/relationship material, but I'm playing it cool here. Am I screwing up by being patient here? I think she's worth the wait...so I'm sort of walking on eggshells here. Any experience with this type of dating relationship fellas? I'd appreciate any words of wisdom ! I don't need to sleep with this chick now, I can get that elsewhere if I want, but I'd like to get this rolling into something a little more fun and interesting and potentially serious.