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Master Don Juan
Hey everybody,
I've been on this site for 7 months now, and I've noticed a lot of guys who went through relationships and breakups talking about similar symptoms. Many out there have said that their relationship/breakup destroyed their social skills, one guy said his breakup "completely chumped me out." Personally, I noticed the effects of my relationship/breakup ranged farther than just a hurting heart - my ability to be creative, to write stories, to write poems, to make funny jokes, and to connect with people was completely and utterly gone. My sex drive is reduced. I feel like I'm in a rut that I cannot escape. The lighthearted moments in my life are few and fleeting.
And I should add that I am pretty well over that girl, and I feel fine emotionally, but I remember being a far more creative and loving person. I feel like my heart is closed off from the people around me, and I've noticed a lot of people, long after their breakups complaining of the same loss of social skills - even of artistic skills.
Does anyone out there relate to what I'm saying? Is this just a risidual effect from the original hurt of the breakup? Is this normal? Does it pass?
I feel soulless several hours a day - but I have hours of joy and soulful feeling, and of love. Maybe this is what finding myself feels like. I know I will fight out of this and find myself, because I'm never going to give up until I find a fulfilling life - but I'm just wondering if anyone else out there has felt this, and fought through it. Thanks everybody!
Izza
I've been on this site for 7 months now, and I've noticed a lot of guys who went through relationships and breakups talking about similar symptoms. Many out there have said that their relationship/breakup destroyed their social skills, one guy said his breakup "completely chumped me out." Personally, I noticed the effects of my relationship/breakup ranged farther than just a hurting heart - my ability to be creative, to write stories, to write poems, to make funny jokes, and to connect with people was completely and utterly gone. My sex drive is reduced. I feel like I'm in a rut that I cannot escape. The lighthearted moments in my life are few and fleeting.
And I should add that I am pretty well over that girl, and I feel fine emotionally, but I remember being a far more creative and loving person. I feel like my heart is closed off from the people around me, and I've noticed a lot of people, long after their breakups complaining of the same loss of social skills - even of artistic skills.
Does anyone out there relate to what I'm saying? Is this just a risidual effect from the original hurt of the breakup? Is this normal? Does it pass?
I feel soulless several hours a day - but I have hours of joy and soulful feeling, and of love. Maybe this is what finding myself feels like. I know I will fight out of this and find myself, because I'm never going to give up until I find a fulfilling life - but I'm just wondering if anyone else out there has felt this, and fought through it. Thanks everybody!
Izza