"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The boyfriend excuse.... today

Michele l'Arcangelo

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you might have read my last post about it

"I don't know what to do for once!"

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=99553

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anyways i did talk to her between the bell about an hour after our lunch, and we did make a date for saturday. i was all happy and confident and ****.

so i was walking with her to her locker and i was like:

***Yesterday***

(blah blah blah)
Me: "hey, what're you doing this weekend?"
her: "friday i have work, but i'm free saturday"
Me: "oh well i was going to hangout with some people at the mall or we were going to go to (this putt-putt, batting cages, ice cream...etc. place that only my city has), have you been there before?"
Her: "no i havent"
Me: "well we planned on going saturday, do you want to come and hangout"
Her: "yeah okay"
Me: "should i give you my number, or should i call you?"
Her: "you call me"
(blah blah blah)

i shoulda saw it coming.

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today i actually attempted to talk to her at lunch and then it was like:

***Today

(blah blah blah)
Her "well saturday, im going to that prom thing"
Me "oh, really? who're you going with" (with a chin upwards...knowing i caught her in a LIE ALREADY)
Her "mmm-mmmy boyfriend" (she said it slowly, with a semi-guilty look as if she knows i'm not stupid enough to believe her)
Me "oh i see, I'll call you in the afternoon then on saturday" (with squinty eyes)
(and i left)

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then after lunch today i went to one of her friends during the bell that im friends with

Me "you never told me she had a boyfriend"
Her friend "she doesn't"
Me "i thought so, so i guess she pulled the boyfriend card on me, huh?"
(and i left)

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i'm supposed to call her on saturday now, i want to do something within these lines:

-catch her in her lie
-make her admit her flakiness
-say something like "look, if you're going to be flakey, you dont have to lie about it. YOU will definitely NOT hurt MY feelings"
-make her want to go on a date again
-accept the date
-call her back and turn her date request down an hour before the date

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would it be bad for me to do those to her? what else can i do for retaliation of her flakiness (that would make my attractiveness and ego go back up... not jerk status)?

and by the way, i didn't take her flakiness personally REALLY. i just hate girls that have to lie like that. i wouldn't have cared if she was like "i thought about it and i don't really feel like going". dumb *****. ha.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mpimpin

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Just NEXT her! i know you want to make her admit she lied and say u recognized that game and you feel like ur not like all the afc's that that might work on and you want her to know that. But in a way this did get to you and just by dwelling on it your showing that. You want to get back at her. NEXT her, find a new girl have a good time and the new girl will surely talk and eventually build up your rep. Then your NeXted girl will feel like a dumb*** for passing up someone great.:rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 

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mpimpin said:
Just NEXT her! i know you want to make her admit she lied and say u recognized that game and you feel like ur not like all the afc's that that might work on and you want her to know that. But in a way this did get to you and just by dwelling on it your showing that. You want to get back at her. NEXT her, find a new girl have a good time and the new girl will surely talk and eventually build up your rep. Then your NeXted girl will feel like a dumb*** for passing up someone great.:rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
I agree, you will just be wasting your time trying to get back at her. Next her and work on other girls. Don't let your emotions control your actions, if they do you can develop a nasty case of oneitis. I learned that the hard way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I will have to say something totally different than all of these guys...actually no I won't.

The word next is so simple by definition. The effect is not.

You move on. You forget about this broad. She realizes shes been 'nexted'. She wonders why. She wants you. You turn her down. Other girls see you're wanted and that you're not going to get with just any chick. They want you, etc. Get the picture?

(Okay its not THAT simple, but I summarized, okay?)
 

Potbelly

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dude justnext her. revenge isn't worth it with b1tches like these
 

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MUHAHHAHA.

Nexting her works, or leaving it open for later, maybe you'll get with her later. That usually happens if you're dating many girls at once, you don't have to worry about this sort of thing.
 

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i agree with all these posts, just move on, becarful with her friends though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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