"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The bouncer at a college place refused my entry
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plinco
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Try a different place then. If something is important enough, something that petty wouldn't be enough to stop you.He said the place was only for college students.
As long as you are fully intact and in one piece, you can do the work and do anything you want to do. This rejection is a blessing in disguise, you should have no shortage of motivation now.
Bible_Belt
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Mike32ct
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All joking aside, college bars/clubs are the toughest on age.
Casino bars/clubs tend to be lenient for entry for older guys ime. There is a chance the older guy might have $ so they cut him some slack.
taiyuu_otoko
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Maybe stop staring lustily at female tang with your hand on your junk while waiting in line to get in...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Well, I'm delighted and relieved you made the effort to go outside and be sociable, rather than digging up weird videos on YT. Don't allow this one event not panning out the way you prefer stop you from continuing to do soHe said the place was only for college students.
MatureDJ
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