"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the big picture

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BeDJ

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I've been registed for over a year and it's been about a year since my last post about anything related to this site.

A year ago, I was a total loser, a wanna be, basically I failed with anyone I came in contact with. I had very little friends, and those that I have never really respected me, I was always that guy who hung out and never said anything. I was the guy where when everyone bounced and I was the only one left. Worst when it came to girls.

When I first started to get use to this site, I swallowed all the information and techniques and lectures.

It made me worst off, I did not see the big picture. All i was worried about was getting into some panties. The techniques and strategies never worked out back then. I kept telling myself the number theory where the more girls I approached, the more numbers I would get. Very depressing when you get rejected by ALL the girls you approach. I kept telling myself it'd get better with every passing day. It never did until I got the big picture.

As you begin the road to as a DJ, FORGET the past that you have. Never think about it because it no longer exist. F*** the people that was in your past. You first came here because you were depressed and desperate. Accept the fact that you came here becasue of something that happened in the past, mainly a girl. Don't give me any bs about looking back at the past, because the more you do, the more you will f*** yourself over. FACE IT the past never did sh!t for you since you're here.

Now that you destroyed the past, you now rebuild yourself in the present. Rebuild your social connections, meet new people and burn the bridges that you once had and build new ones. A year ago in high school, I knew everyone's name, but only about 4 percent of the whole school knew my name. Now, everyone on campus knows me. Hell, I have had hot girls say "hey LOKE" and I'd feel like an ******* when I reply because I forgot their name.

End of part one...I'll do part two when I come back from grinding on hot b1tches
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ImpatientFire

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Good stuff, it's only when you embrace your future and the present that you'll be able to break the chains of the past that hold
 

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It's about self-image. You have to reject negative ideas you had about yourself and embrace what you want to be.
 
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