You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
No. Most of the best threads here are in the archive but not the Bible (nothing against the Bible).Call_Me_Daddy said:Is this in the Bible already?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Appealing to self interest, being like a salesman.. you're thinking like a man persuading another man to do something based on your will not the other party's true self interest. the last time I check, women do not think like men. Also would say that some people like myself immediately build a wall of distrust around salesmen tactics which some PUA consider effective, only effective with the dumber/less experienced crowed I suppose.Delta said:right... it's in "the art of seduction" too by robert green
in seduction, you appeal to their SELF INTEREST... you DO NOT appeal to their PITY or obligation. you want them to want you for themselves, not feel like they OWE YOU something.
it's a tough thing to get right though... in some ways, we're SUPPOSED to think of ourselves more than the women we woo and in other ways, that gets us shot dead in the water....
but i guess the essence is that we're salesman and the product is us.
delta
Too true, I keep my own compendium of really great posts ^^ really, who needs 6 posts on kino? Overkill. How about two words: use it.Hitman10000 said:I'm rebumping this so the dozen or more dumb posts which have almost nothing to do with dating women issues in general are bogging the whole forum down.
DeepBlue is worthy of the DJBible, The DJB needs to be updated, despite most of the content still being relevant to this day there has been some new insightful posts from other users.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
As someone who was around when the largest number of posts were added to the Bible, I can tell you the Bible is constituted of mainly two types of posts...Hitman10000 said:DeepBlue is worthy of the DJBible, The DJB needs to be updated, despite most of the content still being relevant to this day there has been some new insightful posts from other users.
Hitman10000 said:Appealing to self interest, being like a salesman.. you're thinking like a man persuading another man to do something based on your will not the other party's true self interest. the last time I check, women do not think like men. Also would say that some people like myself immediately build a wall of distrust around salesmen tactics which some PUA consider effective, only effective with the dumber/less experienced crowed I suppose.
EROS love is about YOUR WILL and YOUR DESIRE. A*L*W*A*Y*S.Hitman10000 said:Appealing to self interest, being like a salesman.. you're thinking like a man persuading another man to do something based on your will not the other party's true self interest. the last time I check, women do not think like men. Also would say that some people like myself immediately build a wall of distrust around salesmen tactics which some PUA consider effective, only effective with the dumber/less experienced crowed I suppose.