"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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THE BENEFITS OF A BADA$$ MUSIC PLAYLIST.

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I was recently thinking about music therapy, as it was brought up in conversation with an academic colleague of mine. And I came to a pretty damn good insight. As simple and self-evident as this insight may be it is absolutely fundamental to having control over yourself when you need to be a boss, but other pressures (insecurities, fears, scarcity mind-set, etc) are making you want to be a cuck/AFC and do some cucky behaviour.

When you find yourself in the midst of a situation where you want to do something AFC or cucky or needy, perhaps, as an example you want to double text a girl, or you keep thinking about a girl over and over again, or you want to contact your ex, or you want to stalk your ex on facebook, etc. what you need to do is go into iTunes and have a playlist of bada$$ music ready to listen to for 15 minutes. You just put in headphones, shut the fvck up, blast your speakers, and listen to some motherfvcking bada$$ music. For some reason this SNAPS you back into being a boss and you tell yourself to fvck off with the AFC bullsh1t.

Music has a significant effect on your mood. This is why you should NEVER EVER listen to love songs sad music in the midst of break up (like Bon iver, or whatever > even though I heavily fvcks with bon iver). In the midst of a break up it is imperative to ONLY listen to bada$$ or uplifting music. Rap, heavy rock/metal, even some bada$$ blues.

So, if you currently do not have an emergency music playlist titled: Stop being a f4ggot you pvssy, then you need to immediately create one.

Post some suggestions in the comments below

I suggest perhaps something like this: (Even though I am not huge on rap, the feeling you get from something like this is to be a fvcking boss with self-respect.) But you can choose any songs you like. Just make sure the feeling you get from it is to be a boss.



This is better if you dont fvck with rap.

Remember the point for this music playlist is not that the music is technically impressive it is about the feeling that gives you.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Agreed. There is a lot of music that I used to love that I just don't really listen to anymore because it's negative and incites a lot of AFC emotions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Got a whole list here, it ranges from US hip-hop, US rap to UK grime





 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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