"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Basics of Dancing

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After some positive feedback to my reply to Sebastian's post, i decided to submit it. A little kick off on my 200th post :p
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Ok first off dancing is not easy. Don't kid yourself, its not challenging once you get it, but learning can be incredibly embarasing and degrading.

First step to dancing: Learn Syncopation
Everyone who plays an instrament has some idea of what i'm talking about. Ability to take a ryhthm ie 4/4 @72 and modify it to have a beat to it.
Sounds confusing but it really isn't, when you listen to a song you hear syncopation. The trick is to identify it. Listen to a lot of different kinds of music, and try to find the bars and repetition and variation. Study the music, and learn the rhythm. This will help a lot in dancing.

Second: Hip movement
Hip Movement is important in dancing. First it makes you look better, second it gives chick the impression you have control over your hip which is useful for doing something else .
If you have trouble with the hip, get a hola-hoop and get good at that, hell if you are good do it to the music, so that it works in well. :p

Third: Body movement
So you got the hip movement down, and you can do it to music. What about the rest of your body? What do you do with it? Well anything! ok thats a bad example, but really you can.

I'll start with the upper body. I'd start by having your hands somewhat cupped, as if you were going to make a fist, but loosen it. Now lets start by saying your arm is two parts, the upper arm is from your elbow to sholder, and your lower arm is elbow to wrist. Your upper arm along the side of your body, and your lower arm in such a way that you could touch your chest with your hand (If you can see that).

So you got that down. Now lets talk about the sholders. Somewhat roll them from left to right in relation to the music (see it was important). If your off beat you look bad, and chicks think you'll be bad in bed.

So after you get those two down, you want to start working your hips into it. A circular motion will make the body follow par, or front and back, or side to side, or mix it up. Whatever feels best.

So Lower body is next on the list, and lets talk about the feet, Move your feet. I can't stress this enough, even if its just a little bit, it looks horrible to be moving your upper body, and have your feet planted. You don't have to do anything crazy like the C-walk, but be sure you move them every so often in a side to side manner, with pivoting.

Bob up and down a little bit to the beat, this will help create an illusion of more movement. It doesn't have to be a large bob, but be sure you do it.

Ok so your now dancing like a stud. But lets face it you can't do the same thing for 3 hours now can you.

Variations:

Mix it up. Let one arm go limp on your side, and cross the other one across your body by your chests and just pivot your shoulders in a fan type motion where yor move your right side forward and left back and visa versa with your neck as the axis. Mostly do what you feel is most natural, don't force it, people can tell.

Just move your arms around your body, piviting to the music.

Make sure you move your sholders a lot.

Move your hips whichever way feels most natural.

Bob.

And move your Feet around, small steps.

I really hope this helps, good luck with the dancing. Mostly relax and have fun with it. dancing is fun, not a chore.


Have Fun!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bump :)

See how long ago this was?
 

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Can you add it to the High School Bible so people will quit asking?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bumpity bump.

Wow 200th post. How time flys.
 

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vincent how old are u man? are u 19 now....or were u 2 years ago?
 

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Yo vincent are you the vincent that was on the 2003 seminar (can't remember the name) with that asian dude that suppositly talk to you for 3 hours to go over the routine?
 

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^^^no
Originally posted by E_ze05
vincent how old are u man? are u 19 now....or were u 2 years ago?
I'm 19 right now
 
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