"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Basics of Dancing

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After some positive feedback to my reply to Sebastian's post, i decided to submit it. A little kick off on my 200th post :p
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Ok first off dancing is not easy. Don't kid yourself, its not challenging once you get it, but learning can be incredibly embarasing and degrading.

First step to dancing: Learn Syncopation
Everyone who plays an instrament has some idea of what i'm talking about. Ability to take a ryhthm ie 4/4 @72 and modify it to have a beat to it.
Sounds confusing but it really isn't, when you listen to a song you hear syncopation. The trick is to identify it. Listen to a lot of different kinds of music, and try to find the bars and repetition and variation. Study the music, and learn the rhythm. This will help a lot in dancing.

Second: Hip movement
Hip Movement is important in dancing. First it makes you look better, second it gives chick the impression you have control over your hip which is useful for doing something else .
If you have trouble with the hip, get a hola-hoop and get good at that, hell if you are good do it to the music, so that it works in well. :p

Third: Body movement
So you got the hip movement down, and you can do it to music. What about the rest of your body? What do you do with it? Well anything! ok thats a bad example, but really you can.

I'll start with the upper body. I'd start by having your hands somewhat cupped, as if you were going to make a fist, but loosen it. Now lets start by saying your arm is two parts, the upper arm is from your elbow to sholder, and your lower arm is elbow to wrist. Your upper arm along the side of your body, and your lower arm in such a way that you could touch your chest with your hand (If you can see that).

So you got that down. Now lets talk about the sholders. Somewhat roll them from left to right in relation to the music (see it was important). If your off beat you look bad, and chicks think you'll be bad in bed.

So after you get those two down, you want to start working your hips into it. A circular motion will make the body follow par, or front and back, or side to side, or mix it up. Whatever feels best.

So Lower body is next on the list, and lets talk about the feet, Move your feet. I can't stress this enough, even if its just a little bit, it looks horrible to be moving your upper body, and have your feet planted. You don't have to do anything crazy like the C-walk, but be sure you move them every so often in a side to side manner, with pivoting.

Bob up and down a little bit to the beat, this will help create an illusion of more movement. It doesn't have to be a large bob, but be sure you do it.

Ok so your now dancing like a stud. But lets face it you can't do the same thing for 3 hours now can you.

Variations:

Mix it up. Let one arm go limp on your side, and cross the other one across your body by your chests and just pivot your shoulders in a fan type motion where yor move your right side forward and left back and visa versa with your neck as the axis. Mostly do what you feel is most natural, don't force it, people can tell.

Just move your arms around your body, piviting to the music.

Make sure you move your sholders a lot.

Move your hips whichever way feels most natural.

Bob.

And move your Feet around, small steps.

I really hope this helps, good luck with the dancing. Mostly relax and have fun with it. dancing is fun, not a chore.


Have Fun!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bump :)

See how long ago this was?
 

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Can you add it to the High School Bible so people will quit asking?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bumpity bump.

Wow 200th post. How time flys.
 

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vincent how old are u man? are u 19 now....or were u 2 years ago?
 

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Yo vincent are you the vincent that was on the 2003 seminar (can't remember the name) with that asian dude that suppositly talk to you for 3 hours to go over the routine?
 

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^^^no
Originally posted by E_ze05
vincent how old are u man? are u 19 now....or were u 2 years ago?
I'm 19 right now
 
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