My game has gotten pretty tight over the past couple years, in part to many on here. The one thing I still struggle with however is finding the right balance showing interest in the early stages with a girl. I have a HUGE ego, and unless the girl shows blatant signs she's into me upfront, I have a hard time succumbing to the slightly beta behavior necessary to progress further with certain females. I feel like I've lost many quality women simply because I'm too stubborn to put forth myself in a way that makes me vulnerable, if she isn't showing am overwhelming amount of interest in me. Maybe it's a defense mechanism? I don't know. I've gotten burned showing my cards too early, as well as not showing my cards at all. Something I'd like to get polished. Any input on this?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The balance of interest: Not enough or too much
- Thread starter JonnyD123
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Same here. Failed relationships can hurt and leave scars. Over time we get calloused and fear letting go with someone because we know first hand how it feels if we invest and it doesn't work out.
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!