My game has gotten pretty tight over the past couple years, in part to many on here. The one thing I still struggle with however is finding the right balance showing interest in the early stages with a girl. I have a HUGE ego, and unless the girl shows blatant signs she's into me upfront, I have a hard time succumbing to the slightly beta behavior necessary to progress further with certain females. I feel like I've lost many quality women simply because I'm too stubborn to put forth myself in a way that makes me vulnerable, if she isn't showing am overwhelming amount of interest in me. Maybe it's a defense mechanism? I don't know. I've gotten burned showing my cards too early, as well as not showing my cards at all. Something I'd like to get polished. Any input on this?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The balance of interest: Not enough or too much
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Same here. Failed relationships can hurt and leave scars. Over time we get calloused and fear letting go with someone because we know first hand how it feels if we invest and it doesn't work out.
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!