My game has gotten pretty tight over the past couple years, in part to many on here. The one thing I still struggle with however is finding the right balance showing interest in the early stages with a girl. I have a HUGE ego, and unless the girl shows blatant signs she's into me upfront, I have a hard time succumbing to the slightly beta behavior necessary to progress further with certain females. I feel like I've lost many quality women simply because I'm too stubborn to put forth myself in a way that makes me vulnerable, if she isn't showing am overwhelming amount of interest in me. Maybe it's a defense mechanism? I don't know. I've gotten burned showing my cards too early, as well as not showing my cards at all. Something I'd like to get polished. Any input on this?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The balance of interest: Not enough or too much
- Thread starter JonnyD123
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Same here. Failed relationships can hurt and leave scars. Over time we get calloused and fear letting go with someone because we know first hand how it feels if we invest and it doesn't work out.
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!
All I can say is be yourself. They will be into you or they wont. Try not to be so cold that you run off a good woman. Ironically I'm in the same boat. She is getting frustrated because I rarely show emotion, but I don't want to put myself out there at this stage of the game because I have no idea if it will work out.....or if I'm ready for something besides fun dating!