"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

The back from the dead girls

Do you respond to a girls text after 1-3 weeks after she has essentially ghosted you ?

  • Yes

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • No

    Votes: 7 77.8%

  • Depends on some other factor this question doesn't address.

    Votes: 2 22.2%
  • Total voters
    9
  • Poll closed .
BedSwerver

BedSwerver

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2021
Messages
18
Reaction score
8
Age
45
Location
Ohio Valley
I am 40
When a girl doesn't become responsive to me and is giving me quick 1 or 2 word text responses I will completely shut down and not respond. I take it as disinterest and wish to retain my value as a man by not chasing her. Sometimes the next day, I will get hit up with "Good Morning :-D" or something similar. I will completely shut down and not respond. I don't ever want her to believe I am chasing after her. I think back to the night before and think, "You missed your opportunity" and then refuse to respond. A lot of times these same girls will hit me up a week to 3 later, like "hiiii!" on a friday or saturday night. I refuse to answer them because of the lack of communication stated above. So, I am calling this type of girl, "the back from the dead girl". Am I being too harsh? I don't want to walk into her frame and buy in to the hii if it is just a "I'm getting no attention and I am desperately trying to get somebody to respond to my text msgs" if it is just a trap where she use the emotional/social attention temporarily and then move on again. I'd like to know your guys opinions. Some of these girls have had sex with me in this situation and some not (if that even matters to my question).

Thanks a lot guys!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

D

derby1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 10, 2017
Messages
3,242
Reaction score
3,400
BedSwerver said:
Awesome, I thought I was on the right pattern of thought. I appreciate the feedback.
Click to expand...
OP you have a good self respect system, obviously try not to be to much of the Terminator (I made this mistake a few times, disqualified them the first sign of them not ticking the behaviour i wanted)

but yeah it makes me sick when they drop back in the with the "Hiii" DM
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top