"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The back from the dead girls

Do you respond to a girls text after 1-3 weeks after she has essentially ghosted you ?

  • Yes

    Votes: 0 0.0%

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BedSwerver

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I am 40
When a girl doesn't become responsive to me and is giving me quick 1 or 2 word text responses I will completely shut down and not respond. I take it as disinterest and wish to retain my value as a man by not chasing her. Sometimes the next day, I will get hit up with "Good Morning :-D" or something similar. I will completely shut down and not respond. I don't ever want her to believe I am chasing after her. I think back to the night before and think, "You missed your opportunity" and then refuse to respond. A lot of times these same girls will hit me up a week to 3 later, like "hiiii!" on a friday or saturday night. I refuse to answer them because of the lack of communication stated above. So, I am calling this type of girl, "the back from the dead girl". Am I being too harsh? I don't want to walk into her frame and buy in to the hii if it is just a "I'm getting no attention and I am desperately trying to get somebody to respond to my text msgs" if it is just a trap where she use the emotional/social attention temporarily and then move on again. I'd like to know your guys opinions. Some of these girls have had sex with me in this situation and some not (if that even matters to my question).

Thanks a lot guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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derby1

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Awesome, I thought I was on the right pattern of thought. I appreciate the feedback.
OP you have a good self respect system, obviously try not to be to much of the Terminator (I made this mistake a few times, disqualified them the first sign of them not ticking the behaviour i wanted)

but yeah it makes me sick when they drop back in the with the "Hiii" DM
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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