"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The back from the dead girls

Do you respond to a girls text after 1-3 weeks after she has essentially ghosted you ?

  • Yes

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • No

    Votes: 7 77.8%

  • Depends on some other factor this question doesn't address.

    Votes: 2 22.2%
  • Total voters
    9
  • Poll closed .
BedSwerver

BedSwerver

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When a girl doesn't become responsive to me and is giving me quick 1 or 2 word text responses I will completely shut down and not respond. I take it as disinterest and wish to retain my value as a man by not chasing her. Sometimes the next day, I will get hit up with "Good Morning :-D" or something similar. I will completely shut down and not respond. I don't ever want her to believe I am chasing after her. I think back to the night before and think, "You missed your opportunity" and then refuse to respond. A lot of times these same girls will hit me up a week to 3 later, like "hiiii!" on a friday or saturday night. I refuse to answer them because of the lack of communication stated above. So, I am calling this type of girl, "the back from the dead girl". Am I being too harsh? I don't want to walk into her frame and buy in to the hii if it is just a "I'm getting no attention and I am desperately trying to get somebody to respond to my text msgs" if it is just a trap where she use the emotional/social attention temporarily and then move on again. I'd like to know your guys opinions. Some of these girls have had sex with me in this situation and some not (if that even matters to my question).

Thanks a lot guys!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BedSwerver said:
Awesome, I thought I was on the right pattern of thought. I appreciate the feedback.
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OP you have a good self respect system, obviously try not to be to much of the Terminator (I made this mistake a few times, disqualified them the first sign of them not ticking the behaviour i wanted)

but yeah it makes me sick when they drop back in the with the "Hiii" DM
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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