"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

The Approach at the beach

Maeisgood

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2004
Messages
447
Reaction score
3
I'm 27 but I'm not sure I'm always the most mature man out here so i guess ill post in here. But when there are girls in bikinis around and I don't approach any of them I beat myself up over My cowardice. They are often in small groups and i came alone with my parents (they obviously wont be with me when i approach). i only come 1 week a year so I don't get as much practice as I would at my favorite bars at home.

The biggest stumbling blocks for me are that I'm not 100% sure what age they are and if there dad/boyfriend/husband is near. When the tide is low I like to comb the beach and sometimes I see them doing it too. It'd be a good opportunity, if I felt like I had something to say. Forcing a stranger into small talk has never been my strongest suit.

The beach is a tantalizing arena for dj stuff and it really makes one wish they were an expert. The beach brings to mind all of the opportunities and short comings. I kissed/ got kissed at a party days ago, but things are different on the beach during the day.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Paintballguy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 18, 2004
Messages
961
Reaction score
16
Location
Maryland
What's so different about the beach? Just grab your balls and go talk to some women. Even if they were there with their dad or bf, what are they going to do? You were just having a friendly convo.

I was at San Diego with my friends last year. I had a gf at the time, but I still helped them wing. Me and my buddy ran into two chicks there by themselves. We got talking to them and ended up going back to their hotel with them. The beach is a great place to meet chicks.
 

BMX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2004
Messages
1,480
Reaction score
413
Location
Everett
Nothing should remotely come off as "forced" while at a beach. That's a place I go to RELAX, as do they. Talk about whatever you want to with them. They often do go with it ;)
 

Jitterbug

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2008
Messages
3,197
Reaction score
140
Bring a prop / toy e.g a beach ball. Much easier to break the ice.
 
Top