"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jerry Maguire

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A lot, if not all of us, registered here because they want an answer.
They want to know how to fill that hole in our lives, that feeling that we are not yet fulfilled, happy, or complete.

The general message regurgitated on here is that of self-improvement, the notion that we must grow every day and attain our goals in order to reach that fulfillment or happiness that we desire.

I have to say that I do not think this is *the answer* that you're looking for. It's the ever growing carrot that is forever dangled in front of our noses.

This came about after I studied the Bhagavad Gita, which I strongly recommend you all to read. I won't go too far in to explaining this book as I do not follow the teachings given, it mearly opened my eyes to different perspectives on the pursuit of fulfillment and how I am not going to be happy with my life even if I reach all my material or interpersonal goals.

I want something more, I think you will too and we probably all will want something more. This is the essence of desire, it is never satisfied. Therefore I doubt we'll ever fully be fulfilled.

I think we need to have a new attitude towards desire.

Not all desire in the philosophical or paradoxical sense: "Desiring to eliminate desire" but in a way that it will help and further us.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I was stuck in that trap before and probobly won't ever really escape it. My only desire is for everything to perfect.. I want to be able to live my life from now to my death without any big setbacks.. basically getting on the subway and taking it all the way to the last stop without it derailing. Back in the days I couldn't get girls, I was trying to catch the "***** line" cause that was my #1 priority... now I'm trying to get on the "career line", not to be confused with the "job line"
 
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lol, I was really tired last night when I wrote that.
It was just a passing thought but worthy of consideration nonetheless.

I think, in this search for a good desire, that perhaps we shouldn't desire outcomes, but a mindset independent of them.

Surprised only to have one response so far.
 
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