The Alpha Man

[Laury]

Hi everybody,

Can someone explain me what are the features of the modern Alpha man?
Why they "attract" women?
What does the alpha man to attract women?

Thanks and regards

 

[samspade]

It's like "the one" or "the soul mate" - no such thing, don't bother.

 

[IKO69]

The Alpha man doesn't give a **** about what anyone thinks and he does what he feels like. Consequently he usually finds success because this is what it is to be a leader. If you don't trust yourself and march to the beat of your own drum, if you allow yourself to get pulled in different directions by different people , you'll never get anywhere.

 

[Laury]

So, practically, regarding seduction, is a good idea to be like an "Alpha man"?

 

[IKO69]

So, practically, regarding seduction, is a good idea to be like an "Alpha man"?

Yes. The game, just like life itself, is ruthless which is why the Alpha male prevails. You want to be the hunter not hunted. This does not mean you literally go out and hunt people down (lol) but study some of the figures that people regard as "great" you'll find out they often did things their way. It was their way or the high way. Extended that to dating game, it is really about how you say things rather than what you say. You can say anything and do practically anything provided you are the "right" person. How is one person views as being the "right" person? Through pre-selection. How does one become pre-selected? Many ways. You can build an impressive physique, you can dress well (italian suits are not necessary, but dress in a respectable way that shows you have class (and a job), if you go out with a mixed group of guys and girls this looks good.....there's all kinds of things you can do but what you want to do is level the playing field. You have to visibly demonstrate you are different than the rest and there is a unique quality to you. If you are no different than your pairs you won't get anywhere.

When women pick certain guys, it goes back to what I just said above - there was something unique about him. Any remotely decent looking girl has her pick of all sorts of guys.Many of them will have jobs and looks but still lack the "x" factor - what that X factor is I can't tell you and it's probably not worth figuring out. What is worth it is improving your overall package so as to level the playing field. If you leave no stone unturned then more opportunities should come up. You have to constantly be on your toes because you never know when the opportunity will arise.

 

[Laury]

Hi,
Yes, I think I start to understand what the "Alpha man" is.
You wrote "What is worth it is improving your overall package so as to level the playing field", what do you mean exactly?
If the "Alpha man" does not hunt women, how does he get women comming to him? When this happen, what is (or should be his behavior) compared to other men?
Kind Regards

 

[Spaz]

Alpha is a wrong term.

The apt term is dominant.

There r 2 category of dominant personality; the motivator and the doer.

Both types of men does things differently but both r inherently dominant by birth and there's multiple level towards it.

 

[IKO69]

Hi,
Yes, I think I start to understand what the "Alpha man" is.
You wrote "What is worth it is improving your overall package so as to level the playing field", what do you mean exactly?
If the "Alpha man" does not hunt women, how does he get women comming to him? When this happen, what is (or should be his behavior) compared to other men?
Kind Regards

An Alpha tends to be successfull in life because he/she takes chances in life. This also makes them interesting because they tend to have a lot of different experiences ; they also usually have everything else in order from looks to finances. That is what I meant by improving the package - you know what your deficiencies are: you have to do what you can to improve them.

This is why Alpha's do not have to hunt women. A true, genuine alpha doesn't really have to try to hard.

 

[Laury]

Hi,
I still don't understand.
You wrote "This is why Alpha's do not have to hunt women".
What do you mean exactly? That he does not look for a woman?
That is does not need a woman?
So, in fact the alpha can be split between the motivator and the doer.
I guess women hunt for the motivator right?

 

[Spaz]

Hi,
I still don't understand.
You wrote "This is why Alpha's do not have to hunt women".
What do you mean exactly? That he does not look for a woman?
That is does not need a woman?
So, in fact the alpha can be split between the motivator and the doer.
I guess women hunt for the motivator right?

Both the doer and the motivator r dominant males, popularly known as alphas.

Women r basically attracted to both types of males.

The motivator dominant males r those males that hv excellent social skills, leadership skills and highly philosophical. Political leaders, corporate leaders, etc is filled with these personality.

Whilst the doer dominant males r those males that talks less, excellent leadership skills and highly capable in a specialist field; engineers, surgeons, navy seals. But they could also be at ease alone for a length of time.

 

[zekko]

It's like "the one" or "the soul mate" - no such thing, don't bother.

That may be the best answer to this question I've seen.

But I'll add my two cents, if the OP is interested:

Alpha male literally means #1 male. PUAs are interested in the alpha male because of the hypergamous female tendency to want to select the best possible mate to sire their child. Women are attracted to the "top dog", whether it be the best race car driver, the champion boxer, the strongest guy in the bar, the handsomest guy in the club, whatever. Women will seek out the favor of the top male, that's why they say the alpha male doesn't have to pursue women, he has his choice of a large number of options.

PUAs have tried to analyze the behaviors of "naturals" who have a lot of options when it comes to women, and they try to mimic these behaviors and attitudes. They call these attitudes the "alpha mindset".

The problem is, over time more and more people have added their own thoughts of what traits they think this "alpha male" should have, and what we have now is a mythological character who could not possibly exist in real life. They've piled so many different traits into this being that the concept is now essentially meaningless.

The "alpha male" is mainly only useful as a teaching tool, to teach attitudes and behaviors that women find attractive. Unfortunately, too many people take the concept too seriously, and try to place these perfect creatures in real life, which doesn't quite work. In our modern society, most alpha males are "situational". For example, a guy might be the top dog at work, but put him on a basketball court and he's an also ran. Modern life is too complex and varied for one male to dominate at everything he does, in every situation.

 

[IKO69]

Of course, not every guy is going to be good at every single thing....but any guy who is the top dog at something, that is especially lucrative, can be seen as Alpha. There is a prestige that comes along with it and often it can be pretty cutthroat. The most common examples are the financial world and athletics....those people will do what it takes/stab each other in the back to get ahead. No wimps allowed. I am not saying you should backstab people but what I do advocate is to be absolutely ruthless in the pursuit of your dreams.

 

[Laury]

Ah, then I know what type suits me.
very intersting answers.
@zekko: your remarks are sound.
What are PUAs?
What do you mean with "to be absolutely ruthless in the pursuit of your dreams"?

 

[zekko]

Of course, not every guy is going to be good at every single thing....but any guy who is the top dog at something, that is especially lucrative, can be seen as Alpha.

I agree, but PUAs usually refer to that as being a "situational alpha". Which infers that he may not have the confidence or depth outside of his own best environment. You're right in that if he is good at something lucrative, he's probably going to benefit more from it, especially if there is also fame or status involved.

What are PUAs?

Pickup artists.

 

[GT40]

Alphas are strong leaders. At work at home. Also at play or in bed with a woman.
They don’t settle for second best.
Alpha males are their own person. They don’t give a shat what others thing of them.
Dress well. Lead by example. Hit the gym and look good all the time.

Lots of good info above too

 

[Laury]

Ok, thanks.

 

[samspade]

You decide which one's the Alpha.

 

[zekko]

You decide which one's the Alpha.

That tall guy looks like he should be in the WWE.

Perfect example of how being an alpha is situational. In a physical fight, I imagine the big guy would dominate (but you never know).
In a real world power/political sense, Putin would be the alpha every time.

 

[Laury]

@zekko: in our world, I believe in that above situation that Putin would be alpha and the only one in that picture.

 

[zekko]

@zekko: in our world, I believe in that above situation that Putin would be alpha and the only one in that picture.

Lol, maybe.
I think that picture is from about 10 years ago, and Putin is being awarded as the winner of that season of Mystery's tv show "The Pickup Artist".