Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Yes. The game, just like life itself, is ruthless which is why the Alpha male prevails. You want to be the hunter not hunted. This does not mean you literally go out and hunt people down (lol) but study some of the figures that people regard as "great" you'll find out they often did things their way. It was their way or the high way. Extended that to dating game, it is really about how you say things rather than what you say. You can say anything and do practically anything provided you are the "right" person. How is one person views as being the "right" person? Through pre-selection. How does one become pre-selected? Many ways. You can build an impressive physique, you can dress well (italian suits are not necessary, but dress in a respectable way that shows you have class (and a job), if you go out with a mixed group of guys and girls this looks good.....there's all kinds of things you can do but what you want to do is level the playing field. You have to visibly demonstrate you are different than the rest and there is a unique quality to you. If you are no different than your pairs you won't get anywhere.
When women pick certain guys, it goes back to what I just said above - there was something unique about him. Any remotely decent looking girl has her pick of all sorts of guys.Many of them will have jobs and looks but still lack the "x" factor - what that X factor is I can't tell you and it's probably not worth figuring out. What is worth it is improving your overall package so as to level the playing field. If you leave no stone unturned then more opportunities should come up. You have to constantly be on your toes because you never know when the opportunity will arise.
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Yes, I think I start to understand what the "Alpha man" is.
You wrote "What is worth it is improving your overall package so as to level the playing field", what do you mean exactly?
If the "Alpha man" does not hunt women, how does he get women comming to him? When this happen, what is (or should be his behavior) compared to other men?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The apt term is dominant.
There r 2 category of dominant personality; the motivator and the doer.
Both types of men does things differently but both r inherently dominant by birth and there's multiple level towards it.
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An Alpha tends to be successfull in life because he/she takes chances in life. This also makes them interesting because they tend to have a lot of different experiences ; they also usually have everything else in order from looks to finances. That is what I meant by improving the package - you know what your deficiencies are: you have to do what you can to improve them.
This is why Alpha's do not have to hunt women. A true, genuine alpha doesn't really have to try to hard.
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I still don't understand.
You wrote "This is why Alpha's do not have to hunt women".
What do you mean exactly? That he does not look for a woman?
That is does not need a woman?
So, in fact the alpha can be split between the motivator and the doer.
I guess women hunt for the motivator right?
Both the doer and the motivator r dominant males, popularly known as alphas.
Women r basically attracted to both types of males.
The motivator dominant males r those males that hv excellent social skills, leadership skills and highly philosophical. Political leaders, corporate leaders, etc is filled with these personality.
Whilst the doer dominant males r those males that talks less, excellent leadership skills and highly capable in a specialist field; engineers, surgeons, navy seals. But they could also be at ease alone for a length of time.
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That may be the best answer to this question I've seen.
But I'll add my two cents, if the OP is interested:
Alpha male literally means #1 male. PUAs are interested in the alpha male because of the hypergamous female tendency to want to select the best possible mate to sire their child. Women are attracted to the "top dog", whether it be the best race car driver, the champion boxer, the strongest guy in the bar, the handsomest guy in the club, whatever. Women will seek out the favor of the top male, that's why they say the alpha male doesn't have to pursue women, he has his choice of a large number of options.
PUAs have tried to analyze the behaviors of "naturals" who have a lot of options when it comes to women, and they try to mimic these behaviors and attitudes. They call these attitudes the "alpha mindset".
The problem is, over time more and more people have added their own thoughts of what traits they think this "alpha male" should have, and what we have now is a mythological character who could not possibly exist in real life. They've piled so many different traits into this being that the concept is now essentially meaningless.
The "alpha male" is mainly only useful as a teaching tool, to teach attitudes and behaviors that women find attractive. Unfortunately, too many people take the concept too seriously, and try to place these perfect creatures in real life, which doesn't quite work. In our modern society, most alpha males are "situational". For example, a guy might be the top dog at work, but put him on a basketball court and he's an also ran. Modern life is too complex and varied for one male to dominate at everything he does, in every situation.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I agree, but PUAs usually refer to that as being a "situational alpha". Which infers that he may not have the confidence or depth outside of his own best environment. You're right in that if he is good at something lucrative, he's probably going to benefit more from it, especially if there is also fame or status involved.
Pickup artists.
They don’t settle for second best.
Alpha males are their own person. They don’t give a shat what others thing of them.
Dress well. Lead by example. Hit the gym and look good all the time.
Lots of good info above too
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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That tall guy looks like he should be in the WWE.
Perfect example of how being an alpha is situational. In a physical fight, I imagine the big guy would dominate (but you never know).
In a real world power/political sense, Putin would be the alpha every time.
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Lol, maybe.
I think that picture is from about 10 years ago, and Putin is being awarded as the winner of that season of Mystery's tv show "The Pickup Artist".
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.