The "Almighty Princess" and the ex girlfriend.

[jakeyboy]

right here's the deal.

there's this HB9.5 who's going to the same college as me... and we recently just started hanging out, she was in my high school but i never really noticed her up till now. when i discovered she's taking the same course as me.

so anyways, had a great date with her, watched a horror flick and she was pretty much into me... looks like she was having fun, laughing and stuff.

now, the thing about this girl is that, she's got a million guys on her back. i need to differentiate myself from them. but thats not my question.

the thing is i have a coffee catch up thing with my ex girlfriend this friday. (i have no idea why, but yes i asked her out in a moment of extreme stupidity.)

so this HB9.5 knows that i'm meeting my ex on friday. and while we were talking about it, somehow, i said "hey do you wanna go to this really cool coffee house on friday?" (by which i meant ditching my ex to hang out with her)

but she was pretty happy with it. she said "why would you want to see your ex anyway?"

so.... i don't know if i did the right thing.

1. she may think i'm using her to get over my ex

2. she may think i'm desperate for her company and get sick of me.




so what should i do? hang out with my ex? or with this new chick? any advice will be appreciated

thanks in advance mates

 

[Trance]

Originally posted by jakeyboy

now, the thing about this girl is that, she's got a million guys on her back. i need to differentiate myself from them.

You diferentiate when instead of thinking:

Originally posted by jakeyboy

so anyways, had a great date with her, watched a horror flick and she was pretty much into me... looks like she was having fun, laughing and stuff.

you only care if YOU had fun, not HER. i think you'll get the point

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

The ex is an ex for a reason. Forget her and maintaining a friednship with her and move on.

 

[xblitz44x]

Ok, try this:

Picture you and a good friend talking on the phone about everyday "how about this weather?" type of ****. Now picture you asking him or her to hang out this Friday: "Hey you wanna go up to (insert popular bar here) this Friday?" He/she responds with "Yeah sure, that sounds good." Seems easy enough right? Just a simple interaction: "Hey you wanna hang out Friday" "Sure, I'll hang out". No problem.

Did you ever stop and think after you hung up: "Man, I hope Joe doesn't get sick of me, maybe I should cancel on him so that his interest level in our friendship doesn't drop." It just doesn't go through your head.

So why is it that JUST BECAUSE a girl happens to be physically appealing to YOUR eye, that this must mean that she works completely different than a friend? Why do you think she's going to be able to see right through you just because *you* think she LOOKS good? Does your opinion of the way she looks somehow give her this x-ray vision so now she can see that you're just being pathetic and desperate? No. It doesn't.

If you like her, and enjoy spending time with her, ask her out. If she DOES get tired of you, then it's not because you asked her out too much, it's because you both weren't compatible, and "avoiding her to challenge her" would have done NOTHING for you except prolong the inevitible.

-Blitz

 

[jakeyboy]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
Ok, try this:

Picture you and a good friend talking on the phone about everyday "how about this weather?" type of ****. Now picture you asking him or her to hang out this Friday: "Hey you wanna go up to (insert popular bar here) this Friday?" He/she responds with "Yeah sure, that sounds good." Seems easy enough right? Just a simple interaction: "Hey you wanna hang out Friday" "Sure, I'll hang out". No problem.

Did you ever stop and think after you hung up: "Man, I hope Joe doesn't get sick of me, maybe I should cancel on him so that his interest level in our friendship doesn't drop." It just doesn't go through your head.

So why is it that JUST BECAUSE a girl happens to be physically appealing to YOUR eye, that this must mean that she works completely different than a friend? Why do you think she's going to be able to see right through you just because *you* think she LOOKS good? Does your opinion of the way she looks somehow give her this x-ray vision so now she can see that you're just being pathetic and desperate? No. It doesn't.

If you like her, and enjoy spending time with her, ask her out. If she DOES get tired of you, then it's not because you asked her out too much, it's because you both weren't compatible, and "avoiding her to challenge her" would have done NOTHING for you except prolong the inevitible.

-Blitz

thanks mate, that was well said. i'll definitely head out with her.
and exes can go to hell

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by jakeyboy
thanks mate, that was well said. i'll definitely head out with her.
and exes can go to hell

Atta boy jakey! Never venture down a path you've already blazed. The unexplored is always the place you want to be.

Next time resist those urges to hang out with an ex.