Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Age Thing

zekko

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This is one reason why I'm not ashamed of my age:

When I was a young guy in my early 20s there were some of the very hottest girls I knew, and I am talking THE hottest girls. I noticed several of them had crushes on older men. Example:

One of these older guys would breeze through and talk with us. When he had left, HB9.5 or whatever would frigging MELT. And I (typical youngster that I was) would be like "you can't be serious, you like that guy? He's OLD!". But they would confess their crush.

Now usually these were harmless crushes on married guys and never went anywhere, but I've always remembered these incidents. I decided right then and there that when I got older, I was going to be one of these guys. So I've tried to keep myself in shape and keep a youthful attitude along with my maturity. This is one reason I've always looked at my age as an ADVANTAGE, because I know girls like mature men.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you're older, single and successful you are a very distinguished individual and you will stand out in the crowd. Most older guys are married. That leaves very few successful older men for the taking. Sure older guys might have a little bit more wear and tear on them compared to the younger guys, but they also have more accomplishments and money. That sets them apart.
 

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These girls were looking at men in their mid 20's. What age of men were your girls "melting" for?
These were girls around age 22-24, the guys were in their mid to late 40s, and in one case I think the guy was even in his early 50s, although I can't recall for sure.
And as Lexington pointed out, they were all fairly successful in their field. Not rich by any means, but successful.
 
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