The 70% Relationship Rule

[Urbanyst]

I think I might of cracked the code when it comes to pursing, dating and dealing with women.

Knowing when to compromise and how much crap to tolerate has always been tricky for me. I've been trying to find a way to date women and deal with their testing without much thought or effort. I think the 70% rule might be the trick. Here is how it would work:

For you to be in a healthy and compatible relationship with a woman, you must both be at least 70% on the same page. How did I come up with 70%? It goes back to school letter grades:

A = 90 -100%
B= 80 - 89%
C= 70 - 79%
D= 60 - 69%

The bare minimum grade you can get that is not considered a bad grade in school is a C, which is 70-79%. Therefore, a relationship is considered bad once you drop below 70% happy with a woman. A woman as a whole package to include looks, personality, behavior, etc.

When do you give up? When do you walk away? When do you dump a girl? You do it you have to compromise yourself more than 30%. This goes for any stage from the cold approach to being married. This means compromising your lifestyle, goals, hobbies, time, vices, behavior, etc.

I think if you have the discipline to stick to the 70% rule no matter what, you will never be in a bad relationship, because you will always know when to walk away.

 

[Billtx49]

always know when to walk away.

Yes

 

[sazc]

Hopefully you meet someone that you are able to resolve conflict well with, and you are compatible there is enough give on both sides so that it feels 'equal', and it doesn't feel like anyone is taking

 

[Urbanyst]

Hopefully you meet someone that you are able to resolve conflict well with, and you are compatible there is enough give on both sides so that it feels 'equal', and it doesn't feel like anyone is taking

The few times I've experienced that it never lasted. Eventually priorities change or other external circumstances force one person to give more or take more. Interest level is also a very frail thing that can change with one sentence or one drunken action.

 

[lizardking82]

Crucial not to compromise yourself and your goals and your values more than 20-25% at most. I wanted to go to Berlin with my girl and I kinda completely bent my life towards that, started working for that, probably compromised myself close to 50% over time. The other 50% kept me in the game for a while longer and the fact we generally had a good time and the sex was awesome, too, but still, she started bitching about it and then she left.

Never break yourself, just bend it carefully and not too much, for anyone.

 

[TheProspect]

When do you give up? When do you walk away? When do you dump a girl? You do it you have to compromise yourself more than 30%.

I will walk away if I catch myself compromising at all.

I have learned the hard way to put myself and my goals first. Why? The future Me will thank today's Me for it, and although it may seem like a good idea in the moment I know down the road compromise won't bring me closer to where I want to be in life. I am making it a habit of becoming aware of my impulsive thoughts before I act on them in order to make rational decisions versus emotional ones. Over the last five years as I shifted from prominently emotional decisions to prominently rational ones I can see my productivity and life improve tenfold.

And I am adamant about no compromise as I compromised myself 100% before as well as 50%, 10% and 1%. Zero percent seems to work the best for me and less investment in a woman means more investment in myself. That's not to say I won't compromise at any point, as sh!t happens and it can be subtle, but if I catch myself I know what to do. I don't go to bars and clubs anymore because even though I have had my fun in them, I would rather spend the weekend investing in myself, that's what I'm dedicating the rest of my 20s to. To me, I am compromising myself if I have to actively seek out women. All the women I've dated or slept with in the past 2 years have been through convenient inadvertant day game during my everyday activities.

Note: Everything I just mentioned is in regards to newer plates. Of course, a relationship or long-term "plate"ship is a different story.

I don't disagree with your theory, I like it, but I think what every guy will tolerate is different and based on his respective experiences...

There's too many girls out there to invest too much time and energy in any particular one if it's going to be wasted or undermine oneself. I might be a little overdramatic, but it works for me.

 

[Bingo-Player]

The few times I've experienced that it never lasted. Eventually priorities change or other external circumstances force one person to give more or take more. Interest level is also a very frail thing that can change with one sentence or one drunken action.

agreed , the "honeymoon" period will nearly always dissolve after time

im a prime example i just got burnt because i thought that wasnt the case

 

[Urbanyst]

I will walk away if I catch myself compromising at all.

I have learned the hard way to put myself and my goals first. Why? The future Me will thank today's Me for it, and although it may seem like a good idea in the moment I know down the road compromise won't bring me closer to where I want to be in life. I am making it a habit of becoming aware of my impulsive thoughts before I act on them in order to make rational decisions versus emotional ones. Over the last five years as I shifted from prominently emotional decisions to prominently rational ones I can see my productivity and life improve tenfold.

And I am adamant about no compromise as I compromised myself 100% before as well as 50%, 10% and 1%. Zero percent seems to work the best for me and less investment in a woman means more investment in myself. That's not to say I won't compromise at any point, as sh!t happens and it can be subtle, but if I catch myself I know what to do. I don't go to bars and clubs anymore because even though I have had my fun in them, I would rather spend the weekend investing in myself, that's what I'm dedicating the rest of my 20s to. To me, I am compromising myself if I have to actively seek out women. All the women I've dated or slept with in the past 2 years have been through convenient inadvertant day game during my everyday activities.

Note: Everything I just mentioned is in regards to newer plates. Of course, a relationship or long-term "plate"ship is a different story.

I don't disagree with your theory, I like it, but I think what every guy will tolerate is different and based on his respective experiences...

There's too many girls out there to invest too much time and energy in any particular one if it's going to be wasted or undermine oneself. I might be a little overdramatic, but it works for me.

Awesome post man.

My problem has always been making LTR's work. I have no issues getting laid or attracting new plates. But I have never passed the one year mark on a LTR. What usually happens is a woman will start out being really into me.. then one of two things will happen: Either she turns into a psycho desperate clinger who wants a ring right away or she turns into a cold, controlling, game playing, cheating, b*tch of some variety.

I'm great at getting into relationships, but when women test me down the road I get confused on how to act and how much to compromise myself. Then I end up thinking more about my relationships and less about making MONEY which is what I really should be focused on. After some deep thinking I came up with this 70% rule as a way to be on autopilot in relationships so I don't have to think too much it and I can just focus on MONEY. This way no matter what happens I just ask myself if the situation passes the 70% test.

I know its easier said than done. Emotions and sex drive get in the way often. It takes a lot of discipline to rigidly follow any dating rule.

 

[Tenacity]

Awesome post man.

My problem has always been making LTR's work. I have no issues getting laid or attracting new plates. But I have never passed the one year mark on a LTR. What usually happens is a woman will start out being really into me.. then one of two things will happen: Either she turns into a psycho desperate clinger who wants a ring right away or she turns into a cold, controlling, game playing, cheating, b*tch of some variety.

I'm great at getting into relationships, but when women test me down the road I get confused on how to act and how much to compromise myself. Then I end up thinking more about my relationships and less about making MONEY which is what I really should be focused on. After some deep thinking I came up with this 70% rule as a way to be on autopilot in relationships so I don't have to think too much it and I can just focus on MONEY. This way no matter what happens I just ask myself if the situation passes the 70% test.

I know its easier said than done. Emotions and sex drive get in the way often. It takes a lot of discipline to rigidly follow any dating rule.

This is just my opinion......but I think getting into a relationship with a woman today is going to 95% of the time be a "compromise" in and of itself. I think it was Pook that said Men conquer the world, but Women conquer Men, I completely agree with that notion.

- When you are out here spinning plates, not committed, fvcking/dating here and there........this is when you are at your most POWERFUL in terms of the dating world.

- When you commit to a relationship, you lose a PORTION of your POWER.

- When you create a kid with a woman, you lose a PORTION of your POWER.

- When you get married to a woman, you lose a SIGNIFICANT PORTION of your POWER.

I already don't see the value in a Marriage at all, but I'm starting to not even see the value in a "committed relationship" either. Women just don't provide much of ANYTHING other than sex and companionship, both of which you can get just through spinning plates.

 

[Plums]

I think I might of cracked the code when it comes to pursing, dating and dealing with women.

Knowing when to compromise and how much crap to tolerate has always been tricky for me. I've been trying to find a way to date women and deal with their testing without much thought or effort. I think the 70% rule might be the trick. Here is how it would work:

For you to be in a healthy and compatible relationship with a woman, you must both be at least 70% on the same page. How did I come up with 70%? It goes back to school letter grades:

A = 90 -100%
B= 80 - 89%
C= 70 - 79%
D= 60 - 69%

The bare minimum grade you can get that is not considered a bad grade in school is a C, which is 70-79%. Therefore, a relationship is considered bad once you drop below 70% happy with a woman. A woman as a whole package to include looks, personality, behavior, etc.

When do you give up? When do you walk away? When do you dump a girl? You do it you have to compromise yourself more than 30%. This goes for any stage from the cold approach to being married. This means compromising your lifestyle, goals, hobbies, time, vices, behavior, etc.

I think if you have the discipline to stick to the 70% rule no matter what, you will never be in a bad relationship, because you will always know when to walk away.

Seems quite complicated. Why not try this free compatibility tool. http://www.astrologycafe.com/compatibility-ascendant-birth-chart-tools/

Its faster.

 

[Trump]

You guys wouldn't compromise with a Hollywood star who looked good? You would put your foot down, walk away, tell her to go to hell, if you had to make the relationship 50/50? Hmmm...sounds a little suspicious to me. Again, I think 95% of SS men would beg her to stay if she was thinking of leaving. Others would tell her to "get lost", as has been taught by SS, but deep down they would want her to stay so so bad. In rap, they call this "Studio Gangster". You walk in the studio, you are the toughest, meanest rapper ever. Outside the studio, you are a family man scared your wife may leave you for a younger guy.

Girls love us, want to give us sex every day and every night, and we walk away at the first sign of disrespect and get in another relationship with a hot girl in 13 minutes. Mothers of America, lock up your daughters!

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

The blueprint for serial monogamy.

 

[Urbanyst]

You guys wouldn't compromise with a Hollywood star who looked good? You would put your foot down, walk away, tell her to go to hell, if you had to make the relationship 50/50? Hmmm...sounds a little suspicious to me. Again, I think 95% of SS men would beg her to stay if she was thinking of leaving. Others would tell her to "get lost", as has been taught by SS, but deep down they would want her to stay so so bad. In rap, they call this "Studio Gangster". You walk in the studio, you are the toughest, meanest rapper ever. Outside the studio, you are a family man scared your wife may leave you for a younger guy.

Girls love us, want to give us sex every day and every night, and we walk away at the first sign of disrespect and get in another relationship with a hot girl in 13 minutes. Mothers of America, lock up your daughters!

The discipline is the hardest part. Forcing yourself to make decisions that go against your emotions.

Of course a Hollywood hottie would be hard to dump and drop. She brings so much value its not even fair. It would take balls of steel to dump a woman like Ana de Armas as a regular guy. I don't know if I could even do it. But that's the discipline you have to have.

 

[soulforge]

The discipline is the hardest part. Forcing yourself to make decisions that go against your emotions.

Of course a Hollywood hottie would be hard to dump and drop. She brings so much value its not even fair. It would take balls of steel to dump a woman like Ana de Armas as a regular guy. I don't know if I could even do it. But that's the discipline you have to have.

If you don't dump her, what other choice do you have...

She maybe hot, but if her behaviour does not bring value to your life, then what is the point of holding on to her..

I agree, there is no point in dumping a girl on the very first sign of disrespect.. you can and probably should give her one chance..

But.. if the disrespect is more often, or she is not treating you well, then you have no choice but to dump her, or you will let her chip away at your self esteem, up untill your a shell of a man you once where!!

Eventually you will get sick and tired of it anyway.. or she will be the one dumping your sorry ass!

Dumping a chick that you really love, is HARD as fuk.. it really does take balls of steel..