FatHairyM4F
Don Juan
You think the 40 yr old virgin movie changed people's perceptions, and showed that a perfectly normal guy can be past a certain age and not been able to get laid?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.