"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The 1000lb club

Drum&Bass

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Just got my membership this week.

Squat - 315
Deadlift - 475
Bench Press - 225

my goals are still the same, 500 deadlift, 405, squat and 315 bench. Feels good to know im on track.

Anyone else make it into the 1000lb club yet ??

How does it feel and whats your next set of goals ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Most recent:
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Deadlift:405
Bench: 390

It's changed over the years, but I smashed through that in my junior year in high school.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
Just got my membership this week.

Squat - 315
Deadlift - 475
Bench Press - 225

my goals are still the same, 500 deadlift, 405, squat and 315 bench. Feels good to know im on track.

Anyone else make it into the 1000lb club yet ??

How does it feel and whats your next set of goals ?
How many reps can you do with this weight?
 

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1 rep maxes sir,
i can actually squat and bench those weights for more than 1 rep but my deadlift was what got me in.
 
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Good work, congratulations.
I got a ways to go, my damn bench is what keeps me down.

Your deadlift is impressive.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bench was a slow progression for me as well, I prioritized by doing push ups, weighted pushups, hand stand push ups and decline push ups at home every hour on my off chest days.

Try doing some exercises like 25 - 50 decline pushups at home every few days, every hour for the whole day.

This alone will bring your bench up better than any weight routine you do in the gym.
 

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Congrats!

I'm on 880lb with bodyweight of 136.. slowly working my way there.
 

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hack squat - 700 pounds

flat bench barbell press - 260 pounds

deadlift - 400 pounds

So this puts me in the club, too. It feels good to lift heavy. My goal: to get stronger and stronger and get my weight back down to the 150s class.
 

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put your legs on a chair and hands on the floor.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Huge dead there man.

I'm getting close! Not there yet though.

Squat: 305
Dead: 390
Bench: 230

Total: 925

75 pounds to go... I feel like squat is holding me back more than anything. I overtrained my legs improperly this winter with too much skiing stacked on top of normal lifting.

I just ask because I'm curious, why does it seem like my bench is stronger than a couple of you guys who have huge deadlifts compared to mine?
 

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What is your reach kerpal? I am similar with long arms and I know what you mean about leverage.
 

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Where have you guys been??? Lets race to the 1250 club! :D
 

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Drum&Bass said:
This alone will bring your bench up better than any weight routine you do in the gym.

That's a pretty bold statement.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I-tallionStallion said:
Where have you guys been??? Lets race to the 1250 club!
cool count me in !!!


mrRuckus said:
That's a pretty bold statement.
im an emotional guy and it comes out in my words sometimes. Its not a very good statement but doing push ups at the top of the hour has helped me alot and its one way to improve results.
 

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bump

I want to see more people joining

the ONLY LIFTS THAT COUNT are

Squat
Bench Press
Deadlift
 

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Getting closer but I'm not even close :D

Max squat is probably around 275
Max bench 215
Max deadlift around 350

So I'm at 840. 160 to go :cool:
 

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Getting closer but I'm not even close

Max squat is probably around 275
Max bench 215
Max deadlift around 350

So I'm at 840. 160 to go
keep pushing French !! Dedicate more time to your squats

I want you to go for

325 squat
265 bench
425 deadlift
 

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BUMP

all 100% raw no belts or straps + barefoot

Squat = 365
Deadlift = 500
Bench =275

Total = 1,140

next goals:

Squat: 405
Deadlift: 550
Bench: 300

Total = 1,255
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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