"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thats why Iam here asking stupid questions

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Am I reading too deep into this? The woman at work that I am attracted to works across the hall from my office. I had some followup work that I was having a challenge with, so I sent her an email if she help with the issue. Now this was something that was quickly resolved and she could have just as easily sent me a reply back. But she opted to come over to me and tell me in person. Anytime I ask for her help. she always comes over in person to help when most of the time. she could easily just send me a reply via email to let me know.


We constantly make strong eye contact with each other. Alot of the times that I glance at her, she will look away real quick. sometimes she will smile at me. But I see her glances at me quite often. (I admit I glance at her just as much).


Now here is the scoop if you wonder why I dont hae any balls to just ask her out to find out if she is interested or not. Part of the reason is yes, I am shy , but also I have heard some other women say she is married. so I am reluctant to make a move. She does have a ring on her finger, but its not a wedding band.

I guess I just out to kill the curiosity more then anything.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Try and have a conversation with her. Find out if she is married. If not, then work up your courage to ask her out.
 

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Originally posted by leeman67
Am I reading too deep into this?

The very question says that you are.

NO point thinking about it. Go for the number, and you'll have your answer plus peace of mind.
 

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Some things are better left in the realm of fantasy. Personally I never bone chicks from my job. I've learned the hard way that business and pleasure don't mix well, but in the end only you can decide if this is a worthwhile effort.

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to spend sometime with her on a lunch break, charm the fukk out of her and just treat her as a good friend. Spend time with her outside work but don't look for sex! Use her as a pivot to get to her dime friends (they always travel in packs) Get her to help you with your game instead of being the objective. This is the mark of a solid player, no attachments, no expectations...just enjoy yourself.
 
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yeah youre questions are pretty stupid. why should we bother with them?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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