"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's probably why you don't have a GF

Starwolf

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Recently i have been getting this a lot from girls i have known for a while or girls that have heard that i'm single.

After I have teased them or ignored some of their personal questions
they give me this "That's probably why you don't have a Girl Friend" comment.

usually I ignore it or tell them "Why would i need one?"

but there must be a better response to this.

however hard i try this comment still messes up my vibe and makes me more self-conscious/insecure. how can i avoid this.

Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Starwolf said:
Recently i have been getting this a lot from girls i have known for a while or girls that have heard that i'm single.

After I have teased them or ignored some of their personal questions
they give me this "That's probably why you don't have a Girl Friend" comment.

usually I ignore it or tell them "Why would i need one?"

but there must be a better response to this.

however hard i try this comment still messes up my vibe and makes me more self-conscious/insecure. how can i avoid this.

Thanks
You feel insecure about yourself but you are perfectly happy to tease and ignore girls....? Can you not see the comparison?

That is why you do not have a girlfriend.

You also do not need to respond to it either as that shows weakness.
 

stevo

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Your focus shouldnt be finding the correct way to respond to that, there probably isnt any.

You're better off with your focus being how to not get that comment, whatever you're doing is putting you further away from the punani, meaning IT IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING!


Dallers said:
Can you not see the comparison?

That is why you do not have a girlfriend.
Haha funny wordplay.
 

skinnyguy

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Girls act like having a girlfriend is a sign that you're superior to other men.

It's not. Many guys with girlfriends are unhappy and getting pushed around.

Also, 80% of girls out there are not worth dating because they are fat, stupid, BPD, wh0res, or a combination. I do not find most women attractive.
 

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MidnightCity said:
i swear youre the next Eliot rodger in the making
Lol, I get girls HB 8+ and he didn't get anything even though he was surrounded by the easiest and most beautiful women in CA
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Starwolf

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@Dallers. you must be friends with the same girls...
anyways I don't have time for wordplay dude.. so fck off :kick:


@Stevo, it's not happening while doing the same thing over and over.

sometimes a girl will ask for help with an assignment or to buy something for her. i'll just tell her "No" and she keeps nagging and nagging. until she gives up and tells me "your mean, that's why you have no girlfriend"

if that is not something i should be doing. tell me how u would handle a situation like that.
 

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I've been called Jerk and Mean by girls more than anything else lol. Usually it's in a teasing manner though so I take it as flirting more than anything, maybe that's your case as well.

I had one girl say to me "ahh one day you will find someone that will put up with you" in a joking manner, my response was "well hopefully I'll be able to put up with her" and we laughed. I never take anything a woman says personal because they always speak in the moment, out of emotion, which is constantly changing.
 

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Chick: That's probably why you don't have a Girl Friend

You: <insert hearty laugh> None that you'll ever meet!

or

You: <with a smirk, then a straight face> You'd be surprised at the cute chicks I'm fückin lately!



Never let em see you sweat.
 

Peaks&Valleys

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Rival said:
I've been called Jerk and Mean by girls more than anything else lol. Usually it's in a teasing manner though so I take it as flirting more than anything, maybe that's your case as well.

I had one girl say to me "ahh one day you will find someone that will put up with you" in a joking manner, my response was "well hopefully I'll be able to put up with her" and we laughed. I never take anything a woman says personal because they always speak in the moment, out of emotion, which is constantly changing.
^This all day.


Op, you know what you're doing.

Chicks want a challenge.

Her: This is why you don't have a gf.

Translation: I can't control you, therefore you're making my vag tingle. This is all confusing to me, so I'm just going to try to shame you and see how you handle that one.

$hit test city.

Take it as a tease. An opportunity to show her that her WORDS have NO meaning to you. Throw it right back at her, if you want, like the OP did. Whatever you do, don't let her words bother you.....ever.

ACTIONS ACTIONS ACTIONS > words
 

El Payaso

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Yeah. I don't have a girlfriend. I'm having a hard time deciding among the three girls I'm fvcking right now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"that's right. I'm single thanks to inspiration from you and other girls like you."
 

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In my experience, the only girls who question why you have no girlfriend are accidently letting on that they think you are of sufficient quality to have a girlfriend.

I've always seen it as a compliment.
 
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