That's it! it's finally over...

[SgtSplacker]

Hey Sarge, I enjoyed your posts when you were active.

I had an ex that would start arguing over not seeing me enough. The first month, we we’re hanging out 3-4 times a week. I told her it was to much and dropped it to 1-2.

But that wasn’t enough for her because she wanted to meet my family and hers all at once. Despite my protest, she still wanted to see me more and her pestering honestly just got annoying.

She would try to guilt trip me and I just saw through it. She resorted to physically hitting me(two different occasions in the arm) when I would say something that she didn’t like. She also praised a video of Antifa destroying stuff but condemned the Proud Boys being violent, I learned that she wasn’t so bright early on.

She talked to me about her ex messaging her and even stopping by to pick some stuff up. I brushed it off, no drama etc., but I did not forget that.

We would make up after arguing about not seeing her enough and standing firm on my boundaries. But she would always bring it back up which prompted me to go radio silent.

I would ignore her messages, calls, and told her to go home(via text) when she showed up unannounced. She later thanked me for telling her to go home because she said it was crazy behavior...

Rinse repeat, she wants to meet up. I decline, she breaks up with me over text. I agree and amplify and assume she found another guy. A week later, she’s back with her ex.

I was hurt at first but that relationship lasted 2 months. She became very predictable and the only thing I miss was her bouncing double D’s and swallowing my load.

She got annoying with the predictable guilt trips and I remembered all of the red flags. The physical violence, manipulation attempts, and the ex.

But this girl wasn’t genuine and I caught on early on. The girls that are genuine are the most dangerous. They can hook you early on and flip a switch later. So like bipolar, bpd, etc...

In my opinion, you came out with no kid and minimal loss. You have an interesting story to tell and can probably prep for any future encounter with someone similar.

The thing with women like this is that you have to be as controlling as humanly possible for her to be acceptable.

I think were talking about the same kind of girl in this thread, no doubt she was doing the same thing to her ex too. I'm willing to bet her FB was choc full of orbiters and cleavage. I really think we both saved ourselves a bunch of grief ending things early. Thanks for your post.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

It's crazy but I actually did feel guilty in a way. What a strange thing the human mind is. It's true someone can sit there and repeat something to you and you will actually start to kinda believe it.

That's called gas-lighting and I was married to a woman who was an expert in it. I'm still un-fvcking my mind three years later from it.

Sorry it didn't work out OP but sounds like you're seeing things clearly and holding the right mindset now.

 

[Epic Days]

That's called gas-lighting and I was married to a woman who was an expert in it. I'm still un-fvcking my mind three years later from it.

Sorry it didn't work out OP but sounds like you're seeing things clearly and holding the right mindset now.

Reversing guilt and responsibility is a trait that all women have. Get use to it if you’re playing in the feminine imperative.