"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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That was...embarassing and frightening

CvB

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So I just read Rogerman's thread...my problem is exactly the opposite...

I had a girl over tonight, I met her at a friends party. So we were watching a movie and started making out, kissing. While we were kissing I was getting hard, but then..all of a sudden...I came!

It felt so weird, really came out of nowhere, I felt like the American Pie kid. I don't think she noticed so I excused myself shortly afterwards and cleaned up in the bathroom, but my confidence really took a hit there. I realize now this was the first time I kissed while completely sober so maybe that had something to do with it....man...this is just...unbelievable. What to do when I finally get to f*ck a girl? I'm really worried now....

Anyone else ever had something like this? I don't want this to happen again, guess I'll masturbate beforehand next time or something. Put on a bit looser fitting boxers.... :(
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude.. umm.. you better look this **** up on google or something to find out what caused this to happen..

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lol, have you had a previous history of being an....er.....premature ejactulater? If not then I wouldn't worry about it too much. I have a friend who has done **** desensitzer, penis enhancing pills, the whole nine yards... and he's still a virgin.... talk about being insecure, lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not to rag on you, but I'm assuming from your post that you've never had a serious girlfriend or even a long-term (of over 1 week) love interest... I'm basing this on the comment you'd made regarding how you hadn't ever kissed a girl while you were sober. I'm probably the last person who would ever advocate dropping your standards, but when the person in question is 20 years old and ejaculated from something as innocuous as a kiss, I think that advice is warranted. Not to mention you're from the Netherlands, where anyone with 50 extra euro's can visit the RLD and hook up with a kamer girl!

Look, I've got an idea... and it probably belongs in the Wingman section but here it goes. I'll be in Amsterdam from January 5th, 2005 until January 15th - doing nothing but smoking, drinking, partying, and punting. You are more than welcome to join me for a night or two of partying in the RLD, or perhaps at a priveehouse. Hell, we could even go to Alkmaar and check out the girls there if you'd like. Or, we can go out to a rave and guarantee I can find you an attractive girl with whom you can practice kissing as long as you desire. Just give the word!
 

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You are right Diablo, never had a girlfriend or LTR, I have kissed about ten times before, so I didn't expect something like this to happen...I'm over the initial shock and she's coming here again friday, so I'll keep you guys posted how it went ;)

Your offer to hang out sounds really cool, I'd like to meet someone from another country like you and especially in Amsterdam we'll have no problem having a good time! I'll contact you to work out some details.
 
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