"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sinking feeling that you can't get a girl better than your ex.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
in a short time you'll be back in the game!!
I was going through this earlier this year after a breakup.
I'm dating a girl now who is definitely hotter than my last gf.
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All women have different aspects of personality which make them an attractive person as well. For instance, one girl you date may be very well rounded and knowledgable in the area of literature and could be a teacher, whereas another girl you meet might be very passionate about animal rights and volunteer regularly at a local animal shelter.
A while ago I was seeing a girl who worked with handicapped children and helping their parents take care of the children, then that ended. Soon after, I dated another girl who was into great music who was a special education teacher. Both were very attractive personally in their own areas. And I was really bummed out when things ended with both of these girls, but it helped me realize "Wow, there's probably a lot of genuine caring women out there I would love to meet!" There's nothing wrong or "non-DJ" about being bummed out over it. All humans get sad when we lose a connection with someone we adore, platonically or sexually.
A "non-DJ" thing to do is to try and control that which cannot be controlled (ex: beg for a woman back when she has no desire to be with you) or sacrifice elements of your personality for appeasement of others. Only change your personality for YOURSELF. no one else.
You just have to role with the punches and keep moving! Recognize that your sad over an event, but that it will eventually pass and you will return to your normal self.
Get what I'm saying? Hope you get past this soon man! Take a break from women and focus on yourself for a while like PDX1138 said.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
lol, this thread reminds me of some years back when I thought my world ,when it came to women, was over when i broke up with my LTR. I thought, omg, im getting older now and I look around and nobody is as pretty as her. I'm screwed. :crackup:OneofOne said:How do you get past the looming feeling that you won't be able to attract another girl as good as or better than your ex?
WOW, what a freaking clueless idiot I was. I mean, just wow. It simply amazes me how STUPID! we are when we are younger. haha.
It's kind of like when a recording artist takes a long break after a hit album. They look back and think "how the f*** did I do that?!?"
I have to start over and build my game again. LTRs kill your game.
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Simple. You watch this terrible commercial:OneofOne said:How do you get past the looming feeling that you won't be able to attract another girl as good as or better than your ex?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fl86lqm-CaM
Now ask yourself:
Do I want to be a chump like this loser?
Or a man with many options?
Oh man...RockaRolla25 said:Simple. You watch this terrible commercial:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fl86lqm-CaM
Now ask yourself:
Do I want to be a chump like this loser?
Or a man with many options?