"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That girl found out that I like her via Myspace

Fela Kuti

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Okay, long story short. So I've been talking with my friend about this girl that I'm interested with and I've already go out with her once. Yesterday, that friend gave a comment on her Myspace (they have known each other recently via messenger), it goes something like this: "Looks like Fela Kuti is hitting on you eh? Well I wish you two all the best hahaha. Okay, i will keep reporting". Damn, what a stupid thing to do. So what should I do now? Pretend that nothing's happened or should I reply the comment on her Myspace with something laidback and funny like: "Wow, what a dangerous comment by that dude. I'm afraid the gossip will spread quickly, haha."

Thanks and sorry for the weird English. And yes, I've read the bible since years ago. I only want to know about this specific issue. Maybe it sounds AFC but please give yr opinion guys. Thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GloriouslyInsane

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He just chumpified himself,don't sweat over it.Don't talk to anyone about your feelings and your "conquests",it WILL backfire in a way,either you'll feel you have to prove yourself or random stuff like this will happen.

ps:This friend of yours probably has the hots for your girl,so tread lightly in the future.
 

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Yeah, good advice dude. But what I'm worried about is this sentence: "Okay, i will keep reporting". I'm afraid my friend has been reporting all of our discussion about that girl to that girl. If it's true than the situation is rather f**ked. Btw, I chatted with the girl some minutes ago via messenger and she acted like usual as if nothing's hapenned.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Yeah, good advice dude. But what I'm worried about is this sentence: "Okay, i will keep reporting". I'm afraid my friend has been reporting all of our discussion about that girl to that girl. If it's true than the situation is rather f**ked. Btw, I chatted with the girl some minutes ago via messenger and she acted like usual as if nothing's hapenned.
nah man. he just said that to give himself an excuse to talk to her. I agree with that other dude, he likes her too. All that s.hit was, was him trying to bait her into saying "well, I don't really feel that way about fela kuti, I like you." what you need to be worried about is whether or not it works.
 

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hes trying to c*ckblock you over the internet haha, dont worry about that, it happens to me sometimes and i just ignore it. Hey if she likes you she may even bring it up:up: , something like that happened to me too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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But I still haven't got the answer of what should I say to the girl. Should I bring it up or just play it cool?

btw, one thing that I found interesting is why did she put my friend's comment on top of his comments list? I know her to be selective of which comment to approve and which to put on top. And there it is, my friend's comment just above my comment.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
But I still haven't got the answer of what should I say to the girl. Should I bring it up or just play it cool?

btw, one thing that I found interesting is why did she put my friend's comment on top of his comments list? I know her to be selective of which comment to approve and which to put on top. And there it is, my friend's comment just above my comment.

Just play it cool, dont say anything about it... she might have just done it to get a reaction out of you
 

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Have you read anything at all? Something about being comfortable with showing your masculinity?

Come on man, girls are the ones that are sitting facing the rainy window with a flower in their hands saying "loves me, loves me not, loves me, loves me not". Stop the braids and keep spinning those plates and hitting the gym.
 

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Nah man, I just think that by her knowing that I like her, it will change what she thinks of me. My mystery is gone! And she won't sit facing the rainy window with a flower in their hands saying "loves me, loves me not, loves me, loves me not" anymore! Because she already know the answer. Now the weight is on my shoulder.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Nah man, I just think that by her knowing that I like her, it will change what she thinks of me. My mystery is gone! And she won't sit facing the rainy window with a flower in their hands saying "loves me, loves me not, loves me, loves me not" anymore! Because she already know the answer. Now the weight is on my shoulder.

Well, first off, now you know what kind of a "friend" your "friend" is. Your mistery is gone? Nah, ignore and rinse. This will even benefit, because if you continue (hopefully) to be aloof because you're spinning plates, it will make her wonder EVEN MORE. No, the weight is not on your shoulder. Let's just say that you are in control... "weight on your shoulder" makes you get into a position in which I just came out of in which you are caring too much about a cvnt.

After all, it's you who's deciding if you're going to date her again, kiss her, whatever. If she says no, you're still in control since you can either kiss her ass, or make her kiss yours.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Don't be a chump, be a man!!! Go to her myspace and post this "This message is a attempt to hit on you, and the hitting on you is an attempt to get you in bed, and getting you into bed is an attempt for us to do the wild thing."
 

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Dude how you making it? Like, like i'd just DIE of embarrassment!
 
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