"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ubercat

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Generally thanks so much to the sosuave community. I know most people say it's just random guys off the net. but guys have taken time out of their busy lives to PM me advice which will remove a few roadblocks and commented on FR threads over weeks.

I have provided a bit of advice on topics I had some knowledge of and talked a few guys off ledges via PM - hopefully just figuratively but you never know.

now it's time to go dark for a while and try and apply the crazy amounts of knowledge I picked up here.

So...in no particular order thanks to:

all the mods for keeping sosuave free of garbage and your firm guiding hand

Scaramouche - for being an inspiration to an old DJ and plenty of great advice on our mutual obsessions over asian chicks.

Espi and Desdinova for your insightful analysis and for always playing the ball not the man.

Tictac for seeing and telling it like it is.

logical lefty - your posts are always open minded and full of great Little tactics. also very reassuring to me to know that humourous guys still get laid.

Motu for hosting some great discussions on relationship game.

Dustmuffin for all your support and being a Brother on the same journey.

ruler and Parkthebus for fresh perspectives and freaking me out with how knowledgeable the young guys r.

RangerMike and Zekko for much common sense and advice on inner game.

SgtSplacker for advice on the 'middle' way.

Espi again for definitive advice on online dating.

Desdinova for opening my eyes to the possibility of mall game. I think I will wrestle with this one - probably over a chai latte - nice to have First World Problems ;-)

GlassHalfFull, BingoPlayer and WhodaresWins for great open discussion and sharing your tricks.

And too many others to mention.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yewki

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Congrats man! I knew you could do it! So happy for you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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