"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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phil2015

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Hi guys,

Just want to say thanks for you all for your help, advice and support over the last few months. Your help prior, during and after my recent break-up has been invaluable and has really helped me through this sh1tty time.

I'm feeling pretty much over her now and feel I'm back on track with everything and I am feeling much happier. I've started an intensive weights and running routine, altered my diet and have begun meditating almost daily. A family member have me a nearly new car recently and I have moved into better things at work.

Meanwhile my ex ages, gets depressed and laments the dreams and future she gave up with me. Ill never know but I hope this haunts her.

I now feel like I can do better in life, and that while painful, this experience has been a good kick up the azz that I needed. Looking back I see what a near escape I may have had. You guys helped me save my house and possibly prevented me from getting married/getting her preggers. I literally dodged a bullet!

I've learnt a lot from this: The most important being avoid toxic fatherless women and never overlook the red flags

Thanks again for your help and advice everyone.

Your friend

Phil
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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AlphaNate

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Meanwhile my ex ages, gets depressed and laments the dreams and future she gave up with me. Ill never know but I hope this haunts her.
Come on, man. You're better than this. It doesn't matter what's going on in her life, because she's not in your life.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
 

Roober

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Good stuff! Many men go through life and never really "figure it out" I was that guy for 34 years unfortunately...
 

phil2015

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Good stuff! Many men go through life and never really "figure it out" I was that guy for 34 years unfortunately...
Just thankful that I averted anything more serious down the line.

In regards to refusing to put her on the deeds I think it's more than a coincidence she left 4 days later.

Or if I'd got her pregnant, grief she would have had me over a barrel for 18 years!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's good, phil. Let the DJ wisdom guide you so you know how to side step red flags the next time you come across them with new plates. Most especially if you're considering making one of them a main plate. You'll avoid less drama and find someone that sincerely wants to meet your needs mutually.
 
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