"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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phil2015

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Hi guys,

Just want to say thanks for you all for your help, advice and support over the last few months. Your help prior, during and after my recent break-up has been invaluable and has really helped me through this sh1tty time.

I'm feeling pretty much over her now and feel I'm back on track with everything and I am feeling much happier. I've started an intensive weights and running routine, altered my diet and have begun meditating almost daily. A family member have me a nearly new car recently and I have moved into better things at work.

Meanwhile my ex ages, gets depressed and laments the dreams and future she gave up with me. Ill never know but I hope this haunts her.

I now feel like I can do better in life, and that while painful, this experience has been a good kick up the azz that I needed. Looking back I see what a near escape I may have had. You guys helped me save my house and possibly prevented me from getting married/getting her preggers. I literally dodged a bullet!

I've learnt a lot from this: The most important being avoid toxic fatherless women and never overlook the red flags

Thanks again for your help and advice everyone.

Your friend

Phil
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Meanwhile my ex ages, gets depressed and laments the dreams and future she gave up with me. Ill never know but I hope this haunts her.
Come on, man. You're better than this. It doesn't matter what's going on in her life, because she's not in your life.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
 

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Good stuff! Many men go through life and never really "figure it out" I was that guy for 34 years unfortunately...
 

phil2015

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Good stuff! Many men go through life and never really "figure it out" I was that guy for 34 years unfortunately...
Just thankful that I averted anything more serious down the line.

In regards to refusing to put her on the deeds I think it's more than a coincidence she left 4 days later.

Or if I'd got her pregnant, grief she would have had me over a barrel for 18 years!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That's good, phil. Let the DJ wisdom guide you so you know how to side step red flags the next time you come across them with new plates. Most especially if you're considering making one of them a main plate. You'll avoid less drama and find someone that sincerely wants to meet your needs mutually.
 
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