Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I tried to leave the board as well for a couple months. It isn't easy leaving the board but I got a lot more done with my life.Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
You'll be back...
I took a 3 year leave of absence from this board but now I'm back and I have more motivation then ever before. Just try to leave this board! It's like an addictive drug that can improve your life in every aspect..
That's a beautiful fairytale ending to your story, but does the fact that you're married and happy now = marriage and happiness in the future? That's the equation you want the answer for. Self improvement is continuous, it doesn't stop when you find the perfect woman. Keep up the good work, and we'll see you back here in a few weeks!
I couldn't agree more. My point was that there are people who came in here and immediately started posting krap. After a couple of months of "keyboard jockying", they have 800 posts and are "experts", but they have been soooo busy posting, they have never had time to go out IRL and try things out, so they are still posting krap. The original comment was makeing reference to the fact he had "only" 30something posts, and so probably didn't know enough. I was pointing out that he had probably been here reading, absorbing, learning, and going out IRL and applying, so didn't have time to make a lot of posts. Basicly what all of the newcomers should be doing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
) Coc-ky/funny can be implemented easily into your niceguy character. Women WANT to be teased, and they want to find a masculine man. The other big problem with being completely nice and submissive all the time is that it is BORING, and, as we know, that just kills attraction. Be a man and have some dam-n dominance, some control, some unpredictability, like you should have.