You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Im not sure if I understand this. If we are not in a relationship, and Im free to find other girls, how is she holding my balls?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
yes .. if you aint getting the pvssy .. you aint getting anything ..
You are looking at it wrong. She is dictating what goes on and you are just along for the ride basically.
Trying to make her 'feel better' does not build interest or maintain a relationship. You have to continue to display male strength characteristics (explained in the DJ Bible), and give her respect and affection. You also need to make time to date and spend time with your woman. Sounds like you were too busy and you let things slip to a point where you lost her. Relationships are hard work that's why I don't do it, just casually date for awhile don't try and rush into anything too fast.
That's your ego... you have to kill that sh1t. A man with a huge ego sends out a weak frame. You really have to get to a place where you just don't give a fvck what she does. I think it's great that you have a great life... that's how it should be, forget about her... it's her loss.
If you are going to be a relationship guy, you are going to HAVE to find time for your woman. This happens to a lot of men, that get so busy with earning a living they fail to see their woman's flagging interest... you stop being affectionate and date them, and POOF, they are gone.
For those saying he spent 6 years without getting laid, keep in mind wha the wrote above. Wasn't that bad.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Its not the same...and you are not factoring in something called "Opportunity Cost". Opportunity Cost is what you end up losing from other opportunities you could have chosen based on choosing the opportunity you chose. In OP's case, the Opportunity Cost was far far in excess of the minor sexual favors he received. I mean, OP, did you ever discuss anal with her? A lot of so called virgins will give up their ass to keep their "Golden Pvssy" for "The One"...