Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Im not sure if I understand this. If we are not in a relationship, and Im free to find other girls, how is she holding my balls?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yes .. if you aint getting the pvssy .. you aint getting anything ..
You are looking at it wrong. She is dictating what goes on and you are just along for the ride basically.
Trying to make her 'feel better' does not build interest or maintain a relationship. You have to continue to display male strength characteristics (explained in the DJ Bible), and give her respect and affection. You also need to make time to date and spend time with your woman. Sounds like you were too busy and you let things slip to a point where you lost her. Relationships are hard work that's why I don't do it, just casually date for awhile don't try and rush into anything too fast.
That's your ego... you have to kill that sh1t. A man with a huge ego sends out a weak frame. You really have to get to a place where you just don't give a fvck what she does. I think it's great that you have a great life... that's how it should be, forget about her... it's her loss.
If you are going to be a relationship guy, you are going to HAVE to find time for your woman. This happens to a lot of men, that get so busy with earning a living they fail to see their woman's flagging interest... you stop being affectionate and date them, and POOF, they are gone.
For those saying he spent 6 years without getting laid, keep in mind wha the wrote above. Wasn't that bad.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Its not the same...and you are not factoring in something called "Opportunity Cost". Opportunity Cost is what you end up losing from other opportunities you could have chosen based on choosing the opportunity you chose. In OP's case, the Opportunity Cost was far far in excess of the minor sexual favors he received. I mean, OP, did you ever discuss anal with her? A lot of so called virgins will give up their ass to keep their "Golden Pvssy" for "The One"...