Thank God that I found sosuave.com......

[neobrood]

... ... ... before the inevitable happened... ... ...

Remember what I posted at first in this site? Which was all about a girl whom I was so attracted to that I supplicated alot to her...

Guess what...

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Relationship status: LJBF --> LJBA

(LJBA = "Lets just be ACQUAINTANCES")

I got an email from her and then she told me to call at this day at this time... and guess what was her opening line...

"I don't trust you... you are a SCARY person. "

And then she talked about me acting weird and all (talkin to other people and being more open)... and that I lied to her the whole time about me not having friends and all (why do I talk alot about partying with so and so) ... and why the hell do I act differently these days... thats why she don't even feel that I'm supposed to even be just a "friend". She said... "ACQUAINTANCES"... cuz she is afraid of me that I might kill her one day.

And then I talked about how she pushed me to the edge and all and made me rise to improve myself and even thanked her for it. Hell... I even talked to her about DETATCMENT

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55122

of course she heard a condensed version and I didn't use terms such as "DJ" and "AFC" and all other acronyms... And I said that my attatchment to you was the main reason why I was hurt big time.

The more she got scared. "Is that how you think?"

And then she said I'm wrong and gave me more AFC advice...
- "Its ok to show weakness to woman. Girls are suckers for that. You know... motherly instinct will make them go to you."

- "It's ok for you to attatch yourself to people provided that they LOVE you. Attatch yourself to a woman who loves you.

And then I pretended to agree with her. Made a "fake surrender" to see what happens. Acted like I badly needed her... and cmon, lets be friends and all... basically made AFC come back.

And then... ACQUAINTANCES!!! ACQUAINTANCES!!! ACQUAINTANCES!!! She insisted on it that we're only ACQUAINTANCES!!!

I said "Bye..." and as I put down the phone, I was kinda laughin it off... even if I was somewhat forcing myself to feel bad and cry.

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CONCLUSION: She doesn't see me as of any use to her anymore. Time to get rid of the doormat.

If I didn't find sosuave, I think I would be HURT ALOT all the more if she said that to me. I'd be like... "Omg... I did everything for her and now she's easing me out... why why why!!! WAAAAHHHH!!!"

Good thing I was able to see the fire exit before the building crashed down on me...

 

[Hollowpoint]

Fvck man, you're frustrating me here!



"And then I pretended to agree with her. Made a "fake surrender" to see what happens. Acted like I badly needed her... and cmon, lets be friends and all... basically made AFC come back. "

DON'T! NOOOOOO!! AHHH!!
At least do it sarcastically.

She don't even want to know you, so that means, you don't want to know her.

Do NOT agree with her, be like

"Yeah yeah, whatever, I've seen enough that I know the games women play and I don't care."
In a real non-chalant tone.


And never let on that she hurt you damnit!

 

[Caveman]

Hey Neo..

I defenitely think you have the right attitude but don't you think you are getting a little too much negative feedback on your change into being a DJ? In your other thread you mention negative attitudes from your mom, your brother and other people around you.

In my opinion, someone recovering from being afc shouldn't get this much negative feedback. And someone calling you scary is defenitely not what you're looking for, is it? No one should feel that you are changing for the worst. I don't know what it is you are doing but maybe you're doing too much or trying too hard.

Why don't you ask a friend who you can really trust to be honest with you about how you come off to other people?

Don't get me wrong, I am happy for you that you are now obviously a little more confident and all but i am concerned about all of this negative feeback. Like you, I changed from afc to a man in about a year and no one has problems with me. They actually think I changed for the better.

I am not saying something is wrong with you, but you might wanna take a serious look on how you come across to other people. In the end, if you are completely happy with who you are, don't change, but i am sensing a little bit of insecurity too since you are mentioning all this feedback here too. I don't mean to offend you, just trying to help out, bro.

 

[neobrood]

Hey Neo..

I defenitely think you have the right attitude but don't you think you are getting a little too much negative feedback on your change into being a DJ? In your other thread you mention negative attitudes from your mom, your brother and other people around you.

... you definitely have no idea how much of an AFC I was...

I swear... WAY BELOW AVERAGE...

from: http://www.fastseduction.com/youarenew/9levels.shtml

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A WBAFC (Way Below Average Frustrated Chump)...
-Is a virgin and thinks women should be "respected".

-Has never kissed a woman in his life, doesn't know how.

-Is sexually repressed in someway; doesn't understand how guys get laid and thinks its wrong to **** women, even if he wants to.

-Becomes uneasy or embarrassed when talking about sex. Thinks thongs are gross.

-Gets sweaty and nervous if a woman even looks at him.
Believes his problem is he hasn't "blossomed" yet
...or worse, doesn't know he has a problem.

-Jacks off to Japanese comics.

-Thinks "be yourself" actually means "be yourself".

-Has had at least 10 crushes on chicks he's never talked to, and is well on his way to 5 more
...before finally realizing he might have an issue (that he hasn't yet met the "right girl").

-Thinks players exist only in fantasy...
...if he even knows what a player is.
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In my opinion, someone recovering from being afc shouldn't get this much negative feedback. And someone calling you scary is defenitely not what you're looking for, is it?

... I get negative feedback from ppl who knew me in my wbafc days...

but new ppl I met, I dont get neg feedback.

 

[Caveman]

Originally posted by neobrood
... I get negative feedback from ppl who knew me in my wbafc days...

but new ppl I met, I dont get neg feedback.

Wow, you must have really made a huge transition then.. Props to you. Sure enough, I don't know how you acted and what exactly has changed for people to call you even scary but if you are happy with who you are and you are confident, than that's all good. In the end, that's all that really matters.

 

[CharmaLeo]

Hey Neo you sound pretty level headed and reading your posts it seems that you know yourself pretty well. Congratulations on your change and your consistency.

You know that whoever is closest to you will try their damnest to bring back the old you. They feel very threatened by your change. In spite of it all you sound pretty confident, and you know that is a good trait to have. Good luck.