"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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saturos

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So i was just thinking about it since i got a number today from a girl i kind of an interested in...on this forum and the like, it seems that the general advice is to not text, but rather call, and leave texting for simple questions and not actual conversation?
In high school though, most everyone texts all the time, so should i stop?
If not, if i do text, what should it be like?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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'If not, if i do text, what should it be like?'

I'm not really a pro at this, but i'm guessing you will be thrown into the 'friendship zone'
 

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saturos said:
So i was just thinking about it since i got a number today from a girl i kind of an interested in...on this forum and the like, it seems that the general advice is to not text, but rather call, and leave texting for simple questions and not actual conversation?
In high school though, most everyone texts all the time, so should i stop?
If not, if i do text, what should it be like?
you're right everyone does text, use it to your advantage and call her, since no one else does. i've started to shun texting simply because i can't be ****y and funny while texting, they will never here my sarcastic tone of voice. i still do text though, just be ****y and funny, but add some emoticons and ellipses (...), caps to sort of get the right tone conveyed. i never understood this before, but my english teacher told me i had a great "voice" in my writing. so text how you would talk to a girl, emphasis where it's needed, and i'm sure you can still pull it off, i have. again, nothing against texting since it's helped me, but i just like hearing girl's voices especially when you completely pwn them (playfully of course) hopefully i've helped. good luck man.
 

jeffthechef

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don't text....you'll become her *****..sometimes

there's girls in my school that are texting all the fuking time...in class, in the hall, at lunch, in the library, in the bathroom, in the shower, etc..

HOLY ****...if you're talking to her via text every single second she's awake...

1. you'll run out of good **** to talk about on a night out
2. she'll realize you have all the time in the world for her

i would use texts..(i don't text) for:
1. to plan things
2. whenever it's been a while and you want a quick feel of where she's at


but basicallly...try not to talk on your free time...talk/text only in the beginning....push/pull remember....pull really hard and game...then stop it all and she'll be forced to go out somewhere with you cause she wants your time
 

It's-Me

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saturos said:
So i was just thinking about it since i got a number today from a girl i kind of an interested in...on this forum and the like, it seems that the general advice is to not text, but rather call, and leave texting for simple questions and not actual conversation?
In high school though, most everyone texts all the time, so should i stop?
If not, if i do text, what should it be like?
There's nothing wrong with texting. I recommend you mix it up by calling her and texting some times.

Ask her what's up, what she's doing, what's she doing this weekend or talk about something that happened. And try to get sexual ;). For example, if she says you suck, just tell her you suck harder. And than the sexual conversation continues from there. Or you can misinterpret something she says as being dirty and call her a pervert.

Remember to be self-amusing when texting. I act like a total assh0le sometimes on text messages and because it's self-amusing, girls just love it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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