How do you fellas deal with the texting game? my gf loves to text me constantly. Now, I understand her devotion to me lol, but sometimes I can use a little time alone when I don't have to worry about what I'm gonna respond to her last text with. The only thing I've tried is to just ignore her. This didn't work. She came up with a cute little acronym for it. N for Nice. R for Response. T for time. NRT. I'm not sure how to deal with it really. Suggestions?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Texting-too much of it
- Thread starter (JJ)
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
dj_jazzybrad
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If someone is texting me too much, I just tell them i'm going over my limit. If they say "well i saw you texting somebody else" just say "well that person and I are on the same carrier so its free" or something like that. Just a suggestion 
DismantleRepair
Don Juan
A "have a nice day", "good night" or "talk to you later" usually works as a conversation ender in text messages.
You can say you'll be busy for a while and will text/call her later.
You can gradually increase the time it takes you to reply to her text messages. Remember, the time you aren't replying is the time she is thinking about you. Use this to your advantage.
You can say you'll be busy for a while and will text/call her later.
You can gradually increase the time it takes you to reply to her text messages. Remember, the time you aren't replying is the time she is thinking about you. Use this to your advantage.
brad: she knows i have unlimited cuz we've been dating exclusively for 6 months
DR: yea i know that and i did exactly what you're saying back before she and i started "dating officially" and now whenever i try to just ignore her and not respond she gets all upset and tells me she must be such a lame girlfriend and blah blah blah. i know what you're saying though. i consider myself pretty accomplished when it comes to girls. i was just looking for some kind of something special that has worked in this situation for someone else.
DR: yea i know that and i did exactly what you're saying back before she and i started "dating officially" and now whenever i try to just ignore her and not respond she gets all upset and tells me she must be such a lame girlfriend and blah blah blah. i know what you're saying though. i consider myself pretty accomplished when it comes to girls. i was just looking for some kind of something special that has worked in this situation for someone else.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
theunflushables
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Tell her you dropped the unlimited texting because you couldn't afford the bill.
My girlfriend does the exact same thing to me and then she gets mad when i dont reply fast. What i say is this. I can't text in class because last time my phone got confiscated, and if she texts you just don't reply for a while, to be honest i prefer phone anyway so if she texts you, just call her have a chat and she wont text you for a little while at least.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I usually have like 5 minute lapses between texting and sometimes wait 30 minutes. Though it's really not like I set a time limit; I just text them whenever I want to text back. You're supposed to be a busy man; be busy! Texting wasn't meant for convos anyways. And I also usually don't put a lot in the text and try to end it asap. Like maybe 3 lines the max.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Just carry on ignoring her. She'll learn. Failing that, smash her phone.