How do you fellas deal with the texting game? my gf loves to text me constantly. Now, I understand her devotion to me lol, but sometimes I can use a little time alone when I don't have to worry about what I'm gonna respond to her last text with. The only thing I've tried is to just ignore her. This didn't work. She came up with a cute little acronym for it. N for Nice. R for Response. T for time. NRT. I'm not sure how to deal with it really. Suggestions?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Texting-too much of it
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dj_jazzybrad
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If someone is texting me too much, I just tell them i'm going over my limit. If they say "well i saw you texting somebody else" just say "well that person and I are on the same carrier so its free" or something like that. Just a suggestion 
DismantleRepair
Don Juan
A "have a nice day", "good night" or "talk to you later" usually works as a conversation ender in text messages.
You can say you'll be busy for a while and will text/call her later.
You can gradually increase the time it takes you to reply to her text messages. Remember, the time you aren't replying is the time she is thinking about you. Use this to your advantage.
You can say you'll be busy for a while and will text/call her later.
You can gradually increase the time it takes you to reply to her text messages. Remember, the time you aren't replying is the time she is thinking about you. Use this to your advantage.
brad: she knows i have unlimited cuz we've been dating exclusively for 6 months
DR: yea i know that and i did exactly what you're saying back before she and i started "dating officially" and now whenever i try to just ignore her and not respond she gets all upset and tells me she must be such a lame girlfriend and blah blah blah. i know what you're saying though. i consider myself pretty accomplished when it comes to girls. i was just looking for some kind of something special that has worked in this situation for someone else.
DR: yea i know that and i did exactly what you're saying back before she and i started "dating officially" and now whenever i try to just ignore her and not respond she gets all upset and tells me she must be such a lame girlfriend and blah blah blah. i know what you're saying though. i consider myself pretty accomplished when it comes to girls. i was just looking for some kind of something special that has worked in this situation for someone else.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
theunflushables
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Tell her you dropped the unlimited texting because you couldn't afford the bill.
My girlfriend does the exact same thing to me and then she gets mad when i dont reply fast. What i say is this. I can't text in class because last time my phone got confiscated, and if she texts you just don't reply for a while, to be honest i prefer phone anyway so if she texts you, just call her have a chat and she wont text you for a little while at least.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
I usually have like 5 minute lapses between texting and sometimes wait 30 minutes. Though it's really not like I set a time limit; I just text them whenever I want to text back. You're supposed to be a busy man; be busy! Texting wasn't meant for convos anyways. And I also usually don't put a lot in the text and try to end it asap. Like maybe 3 lines the max.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Just carry on ignoring her. She'll learn. Failing that, smash her phone.