"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Texting response time

GrowingPains

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I usually don't text and keep it to logistics.

In this particular instance, she texted me first. Which is good, it potentially indicates some level of interest.

I responded an hour or so later, I was working. That was in the afternoon/evening idk I don't remember. She responds this afternoon. Now, this girl is one that I'm unsure about. She doesn't really respond to my advances so I'm not sure how interested she is. I feel like typical advice for beginners in Game would be to wait like 1.5x the amount of time she did to respond. This just seems ridiculous though? Especially since we're talking days in response time at this point. To me it feels like waiting that long in this instance would appear calculated and inauthentic. Maybe it just feels that way to me because I actually have seen the message but she won't know so she won't care.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GrowingPains

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This kind of bs doesn't matter anymore lol. Everything moves faster.
You know. I was thinking about it... and the problem is with the question itself.

It was lazy. And the answer is obvious.

Sure, I shouldn't be waiting with my eyes glued to the phone to respond to her text. I should respond when it is convenient for me. Just as I would with anyone else. Worrying about response time is me worrying about her interest level. I shouldn't be worried about her interest level, only my own. And acting accordingly. In turn, she'll respond accordingly. That isn't to say I be completely oblivious to dynamics of the game but this is minuscule. Say what I want and if she responds... she responds. If it makes her disinterested... good, I saved time.
 

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Sure, I shouldn't be waiting with my eyes glued to the phone to respond to her text. I should respond when it is convenient for me.
I do the same.
I ain't got time for games.
If I have stuff to do, I'll respond later. If I don't, I reply when I get the message.
If you both reply after 1 day, it's clear(to both of you) that you're playing games with eachother.
I mean, how do you feel about her texting you after a day? She will probably feel the same.
I agree with you, say what you want and if she doesn't look interested, move on.
 

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Lil update: she's coming over today.

 

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Success.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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