texting or calling after number close

[j0504s]

Just want to get peoples opinion on what they do/how long they wait after a number close...

I genrally call (I wait till I feel i have met the threshold of where I am fresh in her mind) and if they dont pick up leave a msg...then if no responce i will text maybe 2 days later if nothing....NEXT

what about the rest of you DJ's?

Im reffering to a sittuation where you didnt make a set plan, or elude to anything or day to chill....

 

[j0504s]

I am a BIG believer in waiting at least 2 days before texting...and I never call them unless they specifically ask me to. I text.

Here's a general way of how I do it:

If I get the phone number on Mon or Tues: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then invite her for a Friday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Friday night?"

If I get the number on Wed. .: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Saturday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Saturday night?"

If I get the number on Thurs.: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Sunday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Sunday night?"

If get the number on Friday, Sat. or Sun: I wait till WED of next week then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Friday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Friday night?"

should the word "DATE" never be used, in this first text, more lets hang out chill...etc...
Obviously using the concept of assuming the sale...kinda saying we are going vs do you want to come is genrally better...
any other opinions?

 

[JohnChops]

I am a BIG believer in waiting at least 2 days before texting...and I never call them unless they specifically ask me to. I text.

Here's a general way of how I do it:

If I get the phone number on Mon or Tues: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then invite her for a Friday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Friday night?"

If I get the number on Wed. .: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Saturday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Saturday night?"

If I get the number on Thurs.: I wait 2 days then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Sunday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Sunday night?"

If get the number on Friday, Sat. or Sun: I wait till WED of next week then text her "hello." I wait for a response. If she does respond, I then text an invite for a Friday night drink date. I am very specific with day, time, and place of date. "Meet me for a drink or two at The Rusty Nail on eighth street at 8 pm this Friday night?"

That's from anti dumps machine

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I just phone whenever the hell I want. Works pretty well for me. If a girl is going to flake, she doesn't care when I phone her.

 

[Plutoman]

I text when I feel like it. I've tried calling, should probably do a few more calls to break my comfort zone, but texting's suited me as I don't have to put much into it. ~80% of the numbers I've gotten are '**** it' numbers that I don't care about, so it's pretty much - text, check investment level, see if I'll get something out of it, move on if not, game if so.

I'll usually go for next day, unless next day is friday/saturday, in which case I'll wait till Sunday, Monday, or whenever.. occasionally I've forgotten about a couple numbers and waited 5-6 days or so.

 

[JohnChops]

Actually, SS member JeffSt1980 is what influenced my technique:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=188587

I do like Anti-Dump's posts, though.

That's great advice thanks for the thread

 

[Harry Wilmington]

JeffSt1980's post is on point. I always wait a minimum 4 days between a first date and next contact just so a woman's own self-doubt will make her think about me. Even if she doesn't appear all that interested on the first date, just the fact that you didn't continue to harp on her like the other 99 dudes that came before you will make her question her level of attractiveness - enough so that, when you finally hit her up again, she feels she must go out with you again and prove to you (and herself) that she's worthy of your attention. It's the reason I end up getting so many 2nd date lays

Anyway... I'm against men having long-standing texting convos with women (texting KILLS relationships). If a woman hits you up with a text, fine - say one or two things then ask for the date. Otherwise, you're wasting your time. Same thing once I get a woman's number - I'll get it then CALL her so she has my number in her phone... and that's it. If I decide to hit her up later I'll call and ask her out. Of course, they usually end up texting me way before I try to call them, so it still ends up working out in my favor...

 

[asa_don]

I always wait a minimum 4 days between a first date and next contact just so a woman's own self-doubt will make her think about me.

That's a good way for a woman to forget about you while she meets and flirts with another man.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Just want to get peoples opinion on what they do/how long they wait after a number close...

I genrally call (I wait till I feel i have met the threshold of where I am fresh in her mind) and if they dont pick up leave a msg...then if no responce i will text maybe 2 days later if nothing....NEXT

what about the rest of you DJ's?

Im reffering to a sittuation where you didnt make a set plan, or elude to anything or day to chill....

Depends on the situation man.

The longer & better the interaction, the longer I wait. Also, when I do reach out, it's definitely by phone because I figure she'll be comfortable enough to pick up.

If it was just a short 5-10 minute thing, I actually text the same night, some kind of "nice meeting you, [playful nickname]" with some callback humor. Then I might text a few more times in a couple of days and then call.

 

[BadNews]

Always call - it shows you're confident and know exactly what you want. Also it is a good way to test her interest level - if she answers or returns a missed call she's definitely interested. Leave the texting for the high school kids who don't have the balls to call a woman. Be a man! Do the right thing!

 

[Uncharted]

When I get a number, it's usually someone I've recently met.

If it's the daytime, I wait until maybe 8-9PM. If I meet her out at a bar, it's when I'm going home for the night.

Quick text: Hey (her name) nice meeting you tonight - (your name)

Something quick like that just to show her that you ARE interested in her, and reminding her what your name is - that way she MIGHT think about you on her way home. Most women think "hmm he might not even call me" or they think "how many guys did i give my number to tonight"?.

Then, call her 2 days later when you think she will be available (after work, etc). Do NOT leave a voicemail. All cell phones have "missed call" notifications. She will know you called.

If she doesn't answer, wait two days and call again. Same as above. If she doesn't answer, don't contact her at all. Wait for her to text you, or call you back. If neither happens in 1 week, delete her number. She's not interested.

 

[Uncharted]

Oh yeah - and DO NOT ask her on a date through text. Call her.