So i have a question im just getting back in the game, i caught up with my hot 9 neighbor i got her number and she gave me a few signals of interest, but when we started texting she texted me back like hours later(like 6)...should i like make her wait n text her the next day lol?
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
alpha_ash
Senior Don Juan
Texting is good when kept at a minimum and used to setup the date. Don't have conversations via text, save that for the actual date. Harry Wilmington will take care of explaining the rest 
dap
Senior Don Juan
Was this your first txt with her? It could either be an IOD or just that she didn't have her phone with her, impossible to tell. I'd respond in an hour. There is nothing that waiting 6 hours says that waiting one hour doesn't. If she keeps this shît up, next her.
dap
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Who knows what this means. It seems like you have way too much invested in this girl if you are analyzing something so small.
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LoL, clearly I have a rep going now :crackup:alpha_ash said:Texting is good when kept at a minimum and used to setup the date. Don't have conversations via text, save that for the actual date. Harry Wilmington will take care of explaining the rest
But yes, I agree with this all the way.
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Also, if she's your neighbor, why text her in the first place? You could just keep the chats with her to when you're in person, and you can ask her out face to face. Dude, man, it's really that simple...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
chocococonut
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obviously it's the fact that her interest level in you is not at a point where she would respond right away or even too soon. wait longer than she did so it seems like you are just as busy as she is. otherwise, she will think you are way too available/interested and HER interest level will fall...which seems to be the case.
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means you are at the bottom of her sex priority list and she has many dude ahead of you..lol
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Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
This is a tough one. My advice is just to wait even longer than her before texting back but overall dont worry too much about it. There really is no consistency among girls when it comes to this. Some are fast, slow, actually busy, forget, hooking up with a guy, uninterested, playing games, etc. Its f-ing annoying but what do you expect from girls.
I've had girls who would have text convos with me that always went well but whenever i ended with a date ask they would come up with an excuse eventually i would give up. Texting is tricky cause a lot of girls use it as an ego boost or power trip.
I've had girls who would have text convos with me that always went well but whenever i ended with a date ask they would come up with an excuse eventually i would give up. Texting is tricky cause a lot of girls use it as an ego boost or power trip.
Yawn it means nothing, stop over analyzing. Text her back the next day, make it short and interesting (read up on txt game). You have to build some sort of connection with a person before they're going to start prioritizing you (best done in person so lead towards a date). Remember, don't make yourself too available.
She's trying not to seem eager. Duh. She doesn't want you to think she's staring at her phone waiting for the next text.
Or, she doesn't like you like that so she actually lost track of time.
Or, you didn't say anything that advanced the conversation so she waited until she had something to say.
Or, she was busy.
Or, she doesn't like you like that so she actually lost track of time.
Or, you didn't say anything that advanced the conversation so she waited until she had something to say.
Or, she was busy.
As Harry said, this is why you should never text.Dr.Jay said:
1. Texting makes you vulnerable. You say something you think it world class witty and she shows it to the guy she is screwing and they are laughing at you.
2. The delay in responses of the texts makes you vulnerable. She shows 10 of her girlfriends your witty comment and they all laugh at you while coming up with a response to protect herself and her ego.
3. Texting can be used against you in so many ways, its in writing and can be used in court to show how emotional you are.
Texting should be used to set up appts. I know some guys here can get laid within 2 texts by some hot girl they just met, but unless you are trying to move things along and set up times, would stay away.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
Way to much over thinking, many to much thought with all these "rules."
Just be INDIFFERENT. Act like its not a big deal, who cares how long she took? Maybe she is busy, maybe her phone died, maybe she is banging some other dude but who cares? Are you trying to marry her or just bang her?
The past month I have literally texted a ton of new girls, and when they don't respond, I let a week go by and I text them again. 90% of them responded and I acted like NOTHING was wrong, never even brought up about them not responding. I ended up banging two of them just last week.
I went through a major change recently with my attitude towards women. I use to be the type that would get mad, or go "huh ill show her for disrespecting me! I'll next her that will show her!"
What I have learned is when you show you care, and show things bother you, you lose. When you are Indifferent. You win. Remember "Who Cares?"
Just be INDIFFERENT. Act like its not a big deal, who cares how long she took? Maybe she is busy, maybe her phone died, maybe she is banging some other dude but who cares? Are you trying to marry her or just bang her?
The past month I have literally texted a ton of new girls, and when they don't respond, I let a week go by and I text them again. 90% of them responded and I acted like NOTHING was wrong, never even brought up about them not responding. I ended up banging two of them just last week.
I went through a major change recently with my attitude towards women. I use to be the type that would get mad, or go "huh ill show her for disrespecting me! I'll next her that will show her!"
What I have learned is when you show you care, and show things bother you, you lose. When you are Indifferent. You win. Remember "Who Cares?"
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.