So i have a question im just getting back in the game, i caught up with my hot 9 neighbor i got her number and she gave me a few signals of interest, but when we started texting she texted me back like hours later(like 6)...should i like make her wait n text her the next day lol?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Texting me hours later
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
alpha_ash
Senior Don Juan
Texting is good when kept at a minimum and used to setup the date. Don't have conversations via text, save that for the actual date. Harry Wilmington will take care of explaining the rest 
dap
Senior Don Juan
Was this your first txt with her? It could either be an IOD or just that she didn't have her phone with her, impossible to tell. I'd respond in an hour. There is nothing that waiting 6 hours says that waiting one hour doesn't. If she keeps this shît up, next her.
dap
Senior Don Juan
Who knows what this means. It seems like you have way too much invested in this girl if you are analyzing something so small.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Harry Wilmington
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LoL, clearly I have a rep going now :crackup:alpha_ash said:Texting is good when kept at a minimum and used to setup the date. Don't have conversations via text, save that for the actual date. Harry Wilmington will take care of explaining the rest
But yes, I agree with this all the way.
Harry Wilmington
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Also, if she's your neighbor, why text her in the first place? You could just keep the chats with her to when you're in person, and you can ask her out face to face. Dude, man, it's really that simple...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
chocococonut
Don Juan
obviously it's the fact that her interest level in you is not at a point where she would respond right away or even too soon. wait longer than she did so it seems like you are just as busy as she is. otherwise, she will think you are way too available/interested and HER interest level will fall...which seems to be the case.
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means you are at the bottom of her sex priority list and she has many dude ahead of you..lol
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Kenny Powers
Senior Don Juan
This is a tough one. My advice is just to wait even longer than her before texting back but overall dont worry too much about it. There really is no consistency among girls when it comes to this. Some are fast, slow, actually busy, forget, hooking up with a guy, uninterested, playing games, etc. Its f-ing annoying but what do you expect from girls.
I've had girls who would have text convos with me that always went well but whenever i ended with a date ask they would come up with an excuse eventually i would give up. Texting is tricky cause a lot of girls use it as an ego boost or power trip.
I've had girls who would have text convos with me that always went well but whenever i ended with a date ask they would come up with an excuse eventually i would give up. Texting is tricky cause a lot of girls use it as an ego boost or power trip.
Yawn it means nothing, stop over analyzing. Text her back the next day, make it short and interesting (read up on txt game). You have to build some sort of connection with a person before they're going to start prioritizing you (best done in person so lead towards a date). Remember, don't make yourself too available.
She's trying not to seem eager. Duh. She doesn't want you to think she's staring at her phone waiting for the next text.
Or, she doesn't like you like that so she actually lost track of time.
Or, you didn't say anything that advanced the conversation so she waited until she had something to say.
Or, she was busy.
Or, she doesn't like you like that so she actually lost track of time.
Or, you didn't say anything that advanced the conversation so she waited until she had something to say.
Or, she was busy.
As Harry said, this is why you should never text.Dr.Jay said:
1. Texting makes you vulnerable. You say something you think it world class witty and she shows it to the guy she is screwing and they are laughing at you.
2. The delay in responses of the texts makes you vulnerable. She shows 10 of her girlfriends your witty comment and they all laugh at you while coming up with a response to protect herself and her ego.
3. Texting can be used against you in so many ways, its in writing and can be used in court to show how emotional you are.
Texting should be used to set up appts. I know some guys here can get laid within 2 texts by some hot girl they just met, but unless you are trying to move things along and set up times, would stay away.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
Way to much over thinking, many to much thought with all these "rules."
Just be INDIFFERENT. Act like its not a big deal, who cares how long she took? Maybe she is busy, maybe her phone died, maybe she is banging some other dude but who cares? Are you trying to marry her or just bang her?
The past month I have literally texted a ton of new girls, and when they don't respond, I let a week go by and I text them again. 90% of them responded and I acted like NOTHING was wrong, never even brought up about them not responding. I ended up banging two of them just last week.
I went through a major change recently with my attitude towards women. I use to be the type that would get mad, or go "huh ill show her for disrespecting me! I'll next her that will show her!"
What I have learned is when you show you care, and show things bother you, you lose. When you are Indifferent. You win. Remember "Who Cares?"
Just be INDIFFERENT. Act like its not a big deal, who cares how long she took? Maybe she is busy, maybe her phone died, maybe she is banging some other dude but who cares? Are you trying to marry her or just bang her?
The past month I have literally texted a ton of new girls, and when they don't respond, I let a week go by and I text them again. 90% of them responded and I acted like NOTHING was wrong, never even brought up about them not responding. I ended up banging two of them just last week.
I went through a major change recently with my attitude towards women. I use to be the type that would get mad, or go "huh ill show her for disrespecting me! I'll next her that will show her!"
What I have learned is when you show you care, and show things bother you, you lose. When you are Indifferent. You win. Remember "Who Cares?"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.