"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Texting less...do you come clean ?

Jor-El

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So lets say you had a GF who you texted loads previously (and yes,we know better now...) and you got back together,and knowing better,messaged a lot less....
If she noticed this,do you come clean and say yes,loads of messaging leads to misunderstandings galore,boredom,then break ups,thats why doing it less so now...or,is it just a shrug of the shoulders kinda "thats how I am now..." What im saying is,does explicitly mentioning the reason why "ruin" it somehow or dosnt it matter ? And please,lets not get into a going back to an ex discussion,the rights and wrongs of that are another thread,if we could stick to this point. Its only hypothetical anyway....cheers guys
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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EyeBRollin

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Nope. Just say you’re busy when she asks. If she doesn’t ask do not bring it up.

Keep testing to logistics for dates only. If she complains on the date and specifically asks you to call or text, send her a good morning text before the next date. Do it only for that one time, then go back to texting for logistics.

The phone benefits her. It doesn’t benefit you. You want to text her as little as possible, while appearing receptive to her complaints. Make sense?
 

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So lets say you had a GF who you texted loads previously (and yes,we know better now...) and you got back together,and knowing better,messaged a lot less....
If she noticed this,do you come clean and say yes,loads of messaging leads to misunderstandings galore,boredom,then break ups,thats why doing it less so now...or,is it just a shrug of the shoulders kinda "thats how I am now..." What im saying is,does explicitly mentioning the reason why "ruin" it somehow or dosnt it matter ? And please,lets not get into a going back to an ex discussion,the rights and wrongs of that are another thread,if we could stick to this point. Its only hypothetical anyway....cheers guys
You just say "i will text when I'm not busy."

No more explanation needed
 

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You never share what you learn on here to become a better man with a woman.

They won't understand it and it will only cause issues.

You just simply tell her that you arent interested in texting all day long because you are busy. Nothing else needs to be said.

Guys that text all day long are too available, too needy and do not create mystery (which drives a woman's interest).

Who cares if she doesnt agree. Keeping a womans emotions moving is also what causes them to get wet. They dont want a predictable man and they dont want a man without a purpose.

Keep your new stronger frame going. If she leaves over it, fvck her. You'll find 3 more better than her from that solid frame.

Only yes men with no other options text one woman all day long
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jor-El

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You never share what you learn on here to become a better man with a woman.

They won't understand it and it will only cause issues.

You just simply tell her that you arent interested in texting all day long because you are busy. Nothing else needs to be said.

Guys that text all day long are too available, too needy and do not create mystery (which drives a woman's interest).

Who cares if she doesnt agree. Keeping a womans emotions moving is also what causes them to get wet. They dont want a predictable man and they dont want a man without a purpose.

Keep your new stronger frame going. If she leaves over it, fvck her. You'll find 3 more better than her from that solid frame.

Only yes men with no other options text one woman all day long
Good post,to the point and bang on! Cheers,sometimes,you just need to hear what you already think
 
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